Since a person is a social being, he lives surrounded by his own kind and, willy-nilly, is forced to constantly contact and communicate with other people. Moreover, each of them differs in terms of the level of emotionality and sensitivity. To avoid conflicts and misunderstandings in the process of communication, it is necessary to take into account the psycho-emotional nature of the interlocutor.
Instructions
Step 1
Psychologists Heimans and Le Se, depending on the degree of emotionality, activity and level of perception, distinguish eight types to which one or another interlocutor can be attributed. The behavior of such an interlocutor during communication is determined by the warehouse of his character. Among these types there is a definition of amorphous. This type of people is characterized by self-control and lack of initiative. An amorphous person carries out assignments, limiting himself only to what was told to him, no additional action should be expected from him. If there is an opportunity to postpone something for later, he will definitely use it. In relation to other people, he behaves distrustfully and in advance suspects everyone of a desire to manipulate him or force him to do something, to get some benefit from him.
Step 2
Therefore, communication with a person belonging to the amorphous type is rather difficult. His behavior and reaction to the words of the interlocutor during communication can be unpredictable, his statements may lack logic and consistency. It is difficult to expect punctuality from such a person or strict fulfillment of what was promised to them. Such people are usually closed and immersed in their own experiences. They can turn off their attention if the topic is not worthy of their attention.
Step 3
When you see that your interlocutor is outside the time and space of conversation, you should not get annoyed and try to attract his attention by appealing to conscience or something else. You will not get results in this way. You should do so in order to interest him, and for this to show that he can get some benefit for himself by participating in communication. Try to find out at the beginning of the conversation the area of interest and relate it in some way to the topic of discussion. Effective use of interesting and non-standard verbal form, as well as incentive questions and non-verbal means of communication.
Step 4
But during the conversation, you should constantly control yourself, so as not to show your interest in the conversation with him too much. You can periodically change the topic of the conversation, as if showing its insignificance, but constantly returning to it. Try to mention the pronoun "I" less in conversation, but use the pronoun "you" more often. Subconsciously, he should feel that the conversation concerns him and his interests. Ask his opinion and make him agree that the topic of discussion is important to him too. Don't provoke conflicts by nipping them in the bud with charm and seeming compliance.
