Man is a social being, and forced loneliness is perceived by many as something unnatural. Personal acquaintances and social connections not only help to solve many life problems, but also improve the quality of life, make it richer and more vibrant. But where can I get these acquaintances, if contacts with childhood friends have already been lost, and new contacts with new interesting people have not yet been made?
Instructions
Step 1
As it was sung in one famous cartoon, "It's no secret that friends don't grow in the garden." Indeed, constantly sitting at home or plying only on the work-home-TV route, you will not get friends. Making new acquaintances and maintaining them is a whole art that requires some effort and attention. And in order to somehow get off the ground, do this simple exercise for a start: take a large sheet of paper, a pencil and write down all your existing contacts. Then analyze them.
Step 2
Even the most reserved person has at least some kind of social circle: colleagues, relatives, acquaintances, neighbors at the entrance. Consider carefully your connections and determine what quality they are and in what area you lack contacts. Whether you lack friends for informal communication, whether you need useful acquaintances for a career or business, whether there are problems with your personal life - your diagram will clearly show you in which direction to move.
Step 3
Having determined what kind of new acquaintances you need, move on to creating them. The most important principle of making friends is that you should look for them among like-minded people. There is no better way to meet new people than to work together on a common cause. If you have a hobby, try to find a club or society associated with it. Surely you will find many interesting people among its participants.
Step 4
Start attending social events that are interesting and close to you. Concerts, performances, creative meetings, sports competitions, collective volunteer public works. The main thing is that this activity should be interesting to you in itself. Then people doing the same things will be pleasant and interesting to you. And you probably have a lot of common topics of conversation.
Step 5
If you are looking to acquire acquaintances in your professional field, begin to take an active interest in her condition and development. Attend business meetings and conferences, participate in round tables, enter into correspondence with the authors of interesting ideas or professional works. When attending any business group event, try to get to know and remember as many of its participants as possible. Exchange opinions with them, short phrases, ask for business cards with contact details and offer your own.
Step 6
If you are unsure of how to start communicating with a stranger, try to start by simply greeting them and exchanging non-binding remarks. Ask his professional opinion on any issue, say something pleasant. Usually people for the most part willingly make contact. Most importantly, remember that any business is especially difficult only the first time. Thus, once overcoming your shyness and starting to communicate, you will very quickly make sure that there is nothing particularly difficult in this, and a large number of attempts will help you develop the most suitable dating tactics for you.
