Misunderstanding and indifference in the family are always signs of latent conflict. And, as a rule, the rejection of loved ones always comes from one person - the aggressor. At the same time, indifference is slowly spreading to other family members, who, following the aggressor, think about the advisability of being under one roof. To preserve the family and stop the looming conflict, it is necessary to find out the root cause or make the family forget about family troubles.
Necessary
- - chess,
- - Puzzle,
- - board game "Monopoly".
Instructions
Step 1
Identify the cause of the lack of understanding in the family. At this stage, only a competent and careful analysis of the situation can help. If you do not resort to the help of professional psychologists, you will have to stay for a while.
Step 2
Create psychological portraits of each family member, describing all the positive and negative character traits. So, the owner of such qualities as quarrelsomeness, rudeness, indifference to loved ones and family, stinginess of emotions, etc., is likely to be the main cause of latent or explicit conflict. Not only a parent can be an aggressor in a family - children are often hostile to brothers and sisters or their own mothers and fathers. If a child is the aggressor, then, most likely, this is due to the age-related restructuring of the body and the period of the beginning of acquaintance with the outside world. But, if the child expresses his hostile attitude towards family members for a long time, then the consultation of a child psychologist will be required.
Step 3
Have a heart-to-heart talk with the aggressor. Be prepared for the fact that it will not be easy to bring an introverted person prone to self-control and secrecy to contact. Here the advice of psychologists comes to the rescue, who recommend first giving an opportunity to speak out to your interlocutor and only after that ask questions of interest or lead to the necessary conversation.
Step 4
Ask the aggressor about what exactly causes a negative attitude towards family members. Pay attention not only to what he says, but also how long it will take him to think. If the answer of the aggressor seems insincere to you, then most likely it's not the family, but the psychological state of himself.
Step 5
Try hosting one original family evening a week. You can come up with an activity that would be equally interesting to all family members. It is important that this leisure allows for conversation during the lesson. The best option for a quiet family evening is a puzzle or board game "Monopoly". If you want to rally the team spirit, then try arranging a game of doubles for family members. So, depending on the number of family members, they are all divided into two teams: black and white. Even if the family consists of three people, one must play against two. It is also important that the aggressor is on a team with another family member. Such an activity with an element of excitement and team struggle will allow family members to learn to understand each other not only at the chessboard, but also in everyday life.
