After creating a family nest, girls begin to think about children, but men do not always take this venture with joy. Therefore, you need to approach the conversation about the child smoothly and carefully.
Rate your feelings. Are you sure you want a baby? Do you understand all the responsibility and complexity of this process? It is very important that you really want the baby, then you can convince and infect your spouse with your desire. But if it's due to pressure from your family, you won't have the motivation to do it.
Find out his opinion
Find out his attitude towards children. If you haven't talked about a child before, you need to start from afar, setting the stage. Talk about a hypothetical toddler, discuss “your friend’s” child, or otherwise weave a childish theme into the conversation. Gradually, you will find out his attitude towards replenishment and his fears about it.
If a man treats children positively, you can start talking about your children. But all of this should look like a non-binding conversation. Ask about his thoughts about the future, plans, dreams, and move on to the topic of children. Whom does he want: a boy or a girl, to which section he would like to send the boy, his thoughts on upbringing. Ask leading questions so that he wakes up a desire to play with the baby, show him the world, and spend time together.
In a favorable scenario, when a man will admire his future fatherhood, you can communicate the desire to have a child. Hug him, kiss him and tell him that you want a child from him and think that now is the right time.
Discuss doubts and concerns
Listen to the man and respect his decision. Even if he does not express joy, there is no need to be offended and demand consent. After all, a child will change your lives, and it's not easy to decide on it so spontaneously. In case of refusal, ask about the reasons, let him argue. Sometimes men are afraid that a woman will lose interest in her husband because of the child, and there will be no more sex. Let him know that you will always be caring and attentive to him, that your relationship will just move to the next level.
Financial and housing problems are already more difficult to settle with simple conversation. Often this is what prevents men from making a decision, because they bear the material costs, and the baby requires a lot of money to raise him healthy and developed. In this case, discuss options for solving this problem, determine an approximate time frame, make a plan. Remind you that there is no perfect moment, there will always be something wrong, but this is not a reason to put off life until later.
If a man refuses over and over again, coming up with new excuses and hiding behind finances, you need to bring him to an open conversation. Most likely, the reason is the fear of responsibility and self-doubt, help him overcome this. Honest conversation, mutual support and understanding will help you overcome your last doubts.
