A typical picture for most families is scattered toys and the child's categorical refusal to collect them after playing. A typical result of this behavior is a quarrel - parents scream and swear, children get offended. To avoid such conflicts, it is necessary to initially teach the child to obey.
Instructions
Step 1
The main mistake of parents is yelling at a child. It is almost impossible to achieve the desired effect with such behavior. Even if the child obeys once, it is likely that in the future he will decide to go on a real strike. Emotions, even if they overwhelm you, must be contained. Objectively assess the current situation.
Step 2
Be as friendly as possible with your child, in a calm voice ask him to collect toys, pencils or other children's equipment. At this moment, try to tell the baby that scattered things are ugly, cleaning gives mom a lot of trouble, mom is tired. In short, just ask the child for help, and do not make them do what you need to do by shouting.
Step 3
An important point that will help manage a child is that all children want to grow up quickly. Be sure to mention this during the request. For example, say "you are already a big girl, please help mom" or "only small children are throwing toys around, and you are already very big for me". Pride and delight will instantly appear in the eyes of the child.
Step 4
Be sure to praise your child for doing good things and responding to your requests. Your baby should be encouraged to receive praise and gratitude from you. Compliment more often, point out the child's talents.
Step 5
Use the child's infatuation to manipulate their behavior. For example, if the kid is not indifferent to sports, "draw" him an image of an ideal athlete. Be sure to clarify that all outstanding personalities love order, follow their daily routine, brush their teeth, etc. The child must have a certain image that he will strive to imitate.
Step 6
Be patient. Very often, parents forget that once they also had quarrels with adults because of disobedience. Try to remember your childhood and your character. What might interest you? Why were you ready to fulfill any requests of your parents? It is likely that your child wants what you dreamed of as a child.
Step 7
You can use a little trick. For example, if a child does not clean up pencils, toys, dishes, or throws things around, turn cleaning into a game. Draw airplanes with pencils, sending them to a pencil holder, say that some fairy-tale character will come and take his favorite T-shirt, which is constantly out of place. Gradually, the child will get so carried away by the game that he himself will get used to cleanliness and order.
