A strong family is the foundation of any state, the guarantee of raising healthy children. Newlyweds getting married want their family to be called strong. But, unfortunately, few people know what this concept really means.
When two loving hearts are united in marriage, they create a family. Does this mean that their family will be strong? It will be possible to say this with certainty only years later. For a young family, love and passion for each other, violent emotions and enjoyment of the closeness of a partner are often more important.
Then children appear, the first difficulties, everyday life and real life. Then young people begin to think that not everything attracts them in a partner. Former love ends, but a new feeling does not come, husband and wife often disagree, not even knowing what family life really is.
How a strong family begins
A strong family does not begin with a registry office, even the appearance of a child does not make it so. First of all, the family can be united by the mutual respect of the spouses for each other, the desire to make the life of the other better, to help and support in difficult times. Many people think that family life should be filled with love and this, no doubt, is the case. But quarrels and disagreements do not arise because love has passed - rather, these conflicts can destroy all good and kind feelings in partners. Their quarrels arise due to the fact that the spouses do not know how to negotiate, do not support each other, want to get more advantages in marriage than a husband or wife.
Marriage is the life of two people, shared joys and shared responsibilities, but some partners are used to selfishly thinking that the other owes them something. Thus, disputes arise about who is to wash the dishes or cook, whose turn it is to put things in order. And sometimes men do not even consider it necessary to take part in household duties: cleaning, cooking, washing. The main problems of most families begin with small problems, avoidance of conversations, accumulation of resentment. And if at first such troubles still seem to be fixable, then over time they get worse and lead to the destruction of the marriage.
How to keep your family together
This means that a strong family is not the one that can avoid all problems. But the one where such problems are accustomed to recognize and understand them. For a family to become strong, a husband and wife must be equal partners in it, know their responsibilities, be able to talk about problems directly, negotiate, openly talk about what worries the spouse. And be able to support another person, sincerely rejoice at his victories, support in failures.
Only in this way can two different people become close and dear to each other. Indeed, in a strong family, the main thing is not how people fit together or how similar their interests are. In a strong family, the main thing is to be able to see the personality in any person and to treat him with respect and love.
