Children often have conflicts with each other, especially for large families. But only parents can help to establish contact between them. The best way to deal with this situation is to switch the children into play activities during the argument.
Parents are often faced with a situation where children's conflicts arise, whether it be problems between children of the same family or friends. In any case, you have to look for options for a quick settlement of the quarrel.
Adult Code of Conduct
Sometimes it is better to refrain from interfering in an argument between children, as they need to learn how to cope with such situations on their own. But if the development of the conflict threatens the emergence of mental or physical trauma in the child, then the adult cannot be left on the sidelines.
This usually happens when the forces of the disputants are not equal. Parents need to reassure their children and advise them to solve the problem peacefully. Never take the side of one of the quarreling immediately, even if you are sure that he is right. First of all, you should listen to both sides, because you can miss something, otherwise one will be sure of permissiveness, the second - in the injustice of adults.
One should try not to imitate investigative actions and court proceedings by accusing and punishing. Let both children be responsible, just try to tell them the right way out of the situation. If everything is turned into a joke, the conflict can be settled.
When asking children about the reasons for the conflict, focus on the fact that they describe each other's words and actions without insulting. If a quarrel arose between brothers or sisters, it is necessary to resolve the situation so that no one is offended at you and does not think that you do not love him. Emphasize that they are dear to you and that their conflicts make you very upset. Even if punishment is inevitable, tell your child that this does not bring you pleasure, but he must understand that this should not be done.
Game tasks to settle conflict situations
Often times, conflict resolution is best done as a game. For example, you can call children on the "carpet of the world" and allow them to throw out their negativity towards each other. You can also invite children to express their emotional state using gestures or “callouts” from the plant world, or you can even ask them to talk about the fight from the point of view of the opponent, leading the story from his behalf.
Another option is to give the opportunity to describe your resentment on paper as emotionally and angry as possible, using all your fantasy. When children try to complain, interrupting each other, make them a condition that you listen to them if they put on a play, ballet or concert on this topic.
