Parents can get lost among various parenting aids. If you really delve into this topic, you can find conflicting advice given by reputable educators and psychologists. Remember the main thing: parents always know best what is right for their child. Rely on the basic rules of parenting, and you will see that your relationship with your son or daughter will become more positive.
Instructions
Step 1
The first golden rule of parenting: Give your children attention every day. Moreover, this should be high-quality communication, and not the satisfaction of the basic physiological needs of the child. Parents should be fully present in the moment of communication with the child, postpone all their affairs, demonstrate genuine interest. Psychologists recommend paying attention to the child every day for 20-30 minutes. If now you and your children do not have good contact, you may need to increase the time spent together at the beginning.
Step 2
In addition to attention, the child needs to be aware of himself as a person. If his opinion is neglected by his parents, if he is commanded and communicated in a condescending manner, this negatively affects both behavior and self-esteem. A child is a separate person with his own inner world. Even if he has not formed his worldview and is just beginning to learn about the world, there is probably already something in which he succeeded. Be sure to celebrate the achievements of your baby, compliment his skills, consult with him on family issues that he is already able to understand. It is important to offer the baby an alternative in simple things: choosing clothes, food, games, activities. When your child is very young, limit your choices to the 2 options that you think are reasonable.
Step 3
Be an example to your children. The authority of the parents is very important to the child. Be consistent in your actions, keep promises and do not break the prohibitions that you impose for all family members. If the child cannot enter the apartment without taking off his shoes, then you would be so kind as to observe this rule, even when you are in a hurry and at the last moment remember a forgotten thing. If you teach your baby good manners, demonstrate them by example. The moment how adults communicate with each other is also important. Be polite and correct.
Step 4
Never discuss your child with strangers in front of him. You can not scold the baby in front of the teacher, on the street, in other public places. You should not indignantly tell a dad who came home from work what his son or daughter did today. Understand this humiliates your child. If he wants, he will tell himself.
Step 5
Don't compare your child to others. When you cite the example of another toddler who behaves better, eats, talks, dances, studies, your son or daughter considers himself to be worthless. Even when the comparison is in your child's favor, it still has negative consequences. From childhood, the kid is guided by competition with others, begins to suffer in case of loss and lives in constant tension. The only one with whom a child can be compared is himself. If you want to compliment him, tell him that he is doing something better than before.
