Recently, marriage between a man and a woman has often ended in divorce. Already after 2-3 years, a young mother is left alone with a small child. But time passes, and the woman begins to think about a new relationship. After all, she needs a man, and the child needs a father.
Instructions
Step 1
Finding a man for yourself is easier than finding a dad for your child. Many women make the mistake of agreeing to get married just because they feel good with their partner in bed. However, they have little interest in his personal qualities. When time passes and the passion subsides, conflicts will inevitably begin. The understanding will come that nothing binds them except sex. Therefore, first of all, you need to look for a husband, not a lover.
Step 2
Before bringing a new person into the family, a woman must make sure that he will not only be a good husband, but also a father. Talk to him more often about your child or about children in general. If a man tries to divert the conversation aside or you notice that the topic of children is unpleasant for him, then you should not introduce such a person into your family.
Step 3
Ask the man about his childhood, hobbies. Meet his parents. For example, certain conclusions can be drawn from observing his relationship with his mother. So, your family life is unlikely to be happy if a man agrees with his mother every decision. It will also be difficult to come to terms with the daily travel at the first call of his mother. Of course, disrespectful attitude towards parents does not bode well either. Over time, he will treat you with due respect.
Step 4
The attitude of the future husband to strangers is another indicator of a well-mannered person. He may be nice and courteous to you, but people on public transport, waiters and shop assistants often piss him off. A little time will pass, and he will begin to be rude to you. Outbursts of anger will manifest themselves with particular force in moments of failure and fatigue. It is unlikely that such a person can become a good father for your son or daughter.
Step 5
It is necessary to take into account the presence of bad habits that any person has. Perhaps a man smokes a lot, snores loudly, drinks, etc. Even having married, he is unlikely to part with his habits. Therefore, you need to decide whether you can live with this person without trying to change him. Tell him about your shortcomings. It is possible that the chosen one will not want to put up with them.
Step 6
If a man is found, do not ask him to show love for his child. It is enough that he cares and supports you. Also, don't make your toddler call your husband daddy. Children have a subtle sense of how adults treat them. The change has to happen by itself. Feel free to get married, because life goes on.
