Any parents carefully monitor the speech of their children and are always ready to make a comment to them. Although they do not control themselves in their words. And very often they allow such expressions that are not only unpleasant, but also frankly harmful for the younger generation. Parents should seriously think about how a child perceives a particular phrase.
“Are you all in your daddy” or “And who did you go like that? I can't imagine"
These phrases usually convey anger, frustration, or frustration. Basically, for a child, this means that you are simply out of luck with your son or daughter. In children, this causes feelings of anxiety and loneliness, and at an older age, anger.
"I have absolutely no time for you"
This expression is offensive to people of any age, not to mention children. The next time, simply, the child will seek attention in a different way. After all, to the sound of broken glass or the scream of a cat, mom will come running like a pretty one.
"None of your business"
Sometimes this phrase is pronounced with a calm and even benevolent intonation. I mean - when you grow up, you will understand. But this does not make it less dangerous. For some children, ignorance is the starting point of neurosis. For others, the reason for the formation of such character traits as suspicion and distrust. And it happens that the child stops asking questions that interest him. And then the parents wonder why he grew up so indifferent.
"Well, where are you going"
Why do parents say that? Sometimes out of pity for their child. Sometimes out of a desire to keep close to you. But more often because they really do not believe in his ability. One way or another, the level of the child's aspirations from this can greatly change. It is very difficult to achieve something if adults do not value the effort and are sure of failure.
"Tell the truth"
Such a requirement always leads to the opposite results, especially when supplemented by threats. All this creates a situation of pressure, constant control. Frankness and honesty exist in an environment of trust, gentleness, and tolerance for different situations.
"Everyone will laugh at you"
Strangers, real and imaginary, act on the child in such a way that some parents completely transfer the upbringing of the function to “them”. With such an upbringing, the child begins to be afraid of strangers, feel insecure in communication, or show aggression towards others.
"They won't teach you good things"
We want our child to have many friends. Only these friends should be positive in every sense. But our desire to select among friends does not evoke feelings of gratitude in children. They become withdrawn, tell their parents less about relationships with friends, and gradually move away.
"There are children."
Undoubtedly, there are many children in the world who are smarter and more capable. And of course they are admirable. In no case should you put them in comparison with your child. This is the same thing that a husband will all the time praise his neighbor and put it in comparison with his wife.
"How many problems do you have?"
Over time, the child gets used to not creating problems and does not even share his thoughts and feelings. Often this persists throughout life and turns into a tendency to depression.
