Parents are often uncomfortable discussing a situation when their child took someone else's thing or stole money. But in most cases everything is not so scary: there is an opportunity to wean him from taking other people's things without permission, it is enough to carry out certain educational measures for this.
Instructions
Step 1
Don't throw negative emotions on your child right away. Try to find a possible reason for his theft, although it may be veiled.
Step 2
Think, maybe in this way he gives you signals that in life he lacks your affection, tenderness, attention and love. Having a love deficit, growing up and losing affection for his parents, he may feel completely alone.
Step 3
Take an interest in how his peer relationships are shaping up. To attract their attention to himself, to earn friendship with them, he can give stolen gifts to children. Introduce your child to other peer status enhancement methods. Gather his friends at home, play with the children, arrange a holiday, and do not forget to speak respectfully about your child, show how much you consider his opinion.
Step 4
Be more attentive to your child's needs. If he brought home a toy from the playroom, then everything can be that in this way his old dream came true. Do not allow situations when his long and persistent desire is unsatisfied, causing excessive nervousness and tension. Give him the gift he so passionately and long dreamed about, using an opportunity (birthday, some achievement or success of the child).
Step 5
If the child brought a toy belonging to a peer, try to find out the nuances of their relationship. What could be behind such an act - a desire to make friends with this child, to attract his attention, or, conversely, to neglect him?
Step 6
Pay attention to how he himself relates to this act - he repents, believes that it is in the order of things or is ashamed. Your assessment of the child's actions should be definite and harsh if there is no feeling of guilt at all. Let him know that you are surprised by his behavior and do not like it. Express your confidence that he is an adult and understands which actions are bad and which are good, so this will not happen again.
Step 7
Do not focus on making the child feel guilty if he understands that his act is wrong, but rather paint a picture of the feelings of the one who lost his thing. At the same time, develop a strategy for returning the item to its owner without undue humiliation.
Step 8
Do not allow your child to be judged in public or insist on a demonstrative apology. This is not necessary at all. Often, it is the inability to return everything to its place and the fear of confessing that the child's feelings are aggravated. Organize a meeting of children (preferably without adults) where the transfer of the toy can take place.
Step 9
Make it clear to your child that you do not approve of stealing in any form. Explain to him regularly why you cannot take someone else's and the difference between strangers and your toys and things.
Step 10
Help your child learn that stealing will sooner or later be revealed, but the secret will still become apparent. The stolen thing will have to be returned, and under condemning glances, and possibly in disgrace.
Step 11
Channel his energy "into a peaceful channel." Find out what interests him (photography, sports, books, art). A person whose life is filled with interesting things feels more needed. And perhaps he will have a friend, at least one.
Step 12
Teach your child to think about the feelings of others, to empathize. Introduce him to the rule: "Always act as you want to be treated with you," and explain the meaning with examples from your life.
Step 13
If the child steals constantly and for no reason, show it to a neuropsychiatrist, who will correct it as necessary.
