The parents of some teenagers are well aware of how difficult it can be to get them to learn. In most cases, teenagers do not need the help of adults, for example, when they play with friends or do something that interests them. However, when it comes to learning, difficulties arise.
Reason for unwillingness to learn
Before you can figure out how to get a teenager to learn, you need to find out the reason why he does not want to do it on his own. The reasons can be very different, for example, he constantly thinks about walking with his friends or cannot tear himself away from his favorite computer game. In any case, without an answer to this question, solving the problem will be extremely difficult.
Emotions of a teenager
Examine the emotional state of the teenager, perhaps the difficulties in school, the complexity of the tasks that he has to face, make him give up. In this case, you have to work on motivation. Fear of studies, anxiety about the result and self-doubt can also lead to the fact that the child simply refuses to study.
Priorities
Remember that for some teens, socializing with friends and doing what they love is a top priority. Such an attitude towards business is transferred by them to school, while learning is perceived by them as a forced necessity. If your child is not one of these children, there is probably a teenager in his class who negatively affects his classmates. Tell your teen that good school doesn’t mean having no friends. Tell stories from your childhood, tell about your high school friends and how you did in school.
If you are a single parent, try to find the right approach to the child, taking into account the lack of influence of the other parent. The wrong approach can make the situation worse.
Maintain a positive attitude
Do not limit yourself to praise or words of encouragement only if the child is doing something good. This approach makes the teenager avoid mistakes and difficulties. If your child comes home from school with a poor grade on a test, don't scold him. Take this with understanding and say words of encouragement.
It may take the teenager the courage to tell you about a bad grade, in which case your reaction will be especially important.
Homework
If your teen doesn't like doing homework, don't tell him, "Go do your homework," instead, sit next to him at the table and don't leave until you are sure he has actually started doing it. Some adolescents need a little nudge to get on with their work.
Do not press
Do not expect your child to be as successful and good as, for example, you. If he does not do any housework, it does not mean that he is irresponsible, it means that he is just a teenager. Do not scold him for trifles, become a friend to him. Treat his mistakes with a sense of humor, while reminding them of his responsibilities. Use unusual or playful forms of communication, for example, leave notes reminding him that he needs to do his homework.
The constant reading of notations has the opposite effect, it forces the child to become defensive. Brainstorm with him more often about his studies. Teens are more likely to follow a plan they have made with their own hands.
