Today, cases when a woman has to raise her own child or children on her own are far from uncommon. Of course, the ideal option is when the father shows a sincere interest in his offspring, loves them, and also helps his ex-wife financially. However, such cases are not that rare, but, so to speak, do not occur at every step. Quite often, a woman is forced not only to arrange her personal life, but also to look for a father for her kids. It is very difficult to raise children without male influence, they absolutely need a dad. But where can I get it?
The answer to this question can be found in some of the recommendations of psychologists, which they give to single mothers who decide to create a new family. Naturally, these tips can only be useful to those women who are serious about this problem and think first of all about the well-being of their own children.
This may sound like a dissonance to the above, but a woman who dreams of a complete family should think first of all about herself. About your preferences and personal feelings. You will never be able to find a great father and unloved husband in one person. There is such a psychological axiom in matters of family and marriage - "The key to a happy childhood is the happiness of parents." A mother who is in a state of mental discomfort every day will not be able to give her children the warmth and attention they need. And where does comfort come from if there is a disgusting and hateful person nearby? Therefore, a man needs to choose only his beloved!
A woman should step "on the throat" of her own feelings only in case of an outright hostility of the chosen one to her children. Any attempt to offend or, moreover, hit a child, you must immediately abandon the relationship with the man. Without waiting a second time! Balance and a sober attitude to life are the main criteria in assessing the behavior of a potential father. Moreover, the word "sober" should be considered in all its senses, incl. direct.
Everything else is experienced and surmountable. It is not worth, of course, to demand "love at first sight", both from the new husband and from the children, especially if the latter have already left the "baby" age. But a feeling of respect and sympathy, over time, will surely arise - after all, these are the children of the woman you love! This is all the more likely the more time the family spends together. And nothing brings people together like a joint vacation, for example, in the bosom of nature, in an amusement park, etc.
A woman, if she wants an excellent relationship between a stepfather and children, should act as their active builder. Since she knows her kids better, then you can tell a new family member some features of their character, habits, tastes and other significant moments. And everything will definitely work out!
