Raising children without a father is not an easy task, and this phenomenon is not at all rare. Some time passes, the pain from parting with her ex-husband or from the irreparable loss of her beloved spouse subsides, and the woman realizes her readiness to re-enter a relationship with a man. But at the same time, the question arises of how to find not only a husband, but also a dad for the children?
Instructions
Step 1
Wait for a certain time when you are fully ready to accept your new status as a single mother, and all men (in the event of a painful separation from the father of children) will cease to seem, as often happens, as selfish males and villains. Only full acceptance of oneself and those around them as they are can give a feeling of calmness. To do this, immerse yourself in the affairs and problems of children, work, hobbies.
Step 2
After achieving a sense of harmony with yourself, start looking for a potential dad for your children and a husband for yourself. To do this, do not sit at home: walk with children in playgrounds, in parks, squares. But not only where retirees and mothers with strollers walk. Choose places where it is quite possible to meet the same single or divorced dad with a child: city cafes where young visitors are welcome, theaters, squares near fountains. These unconventional walks will bring pleasure to your children and will be beneficial for you. Even if you do not meet the man of your dreams there, you will enjoy the time spent and a charge of good mood. And a woman in such a mood will certainly attract interested or approving glances from others.
Step 3
Make it a rule to use public transport sometimes if you don't use it at all. In the subway or tram, sometimes fateful meetings with decent and worthy men happen. And a trip to the subway for a lady with good income can be regarded as a small extreme adventure.
Step 4
Take a closer look at your work colleagues. If you are an attractive woman, then it is quite possible that one of your male colleagues has been eyeing you for a long time, but does not have the courage to come up and talk about this topic. Your freedom from marriage should not be advertised, but it also makes no sense to hide it. You are who you are and, perhaps, it is your new free position that will serve as a reason for the man's long-hidden attempts to get closer to you.
Step 5
If you are too shy person or in everyday life do not have contacts with men, as with colleagues, then you can turn to professional matchmakers for help in finding a husband for yourself and a father for children. At least, they are also approached by men with certain intentions, which they indicate when entering their parameters into the database. However, be careful, because it is through such marriage agencies, as well as when meeting through Internet resources, that it is possible to stumble upon a marriage swindler.
Step 6
Take a closer look at the person who shows increased attention to you - perhaps this is the one you need, you just yourself have not yet understood and felt this. Pay attention to what features of his like not only you, but your children can also like, whether they can accept this particular man as a family member. Find out if he loves children at all and in what way he expresses this feeling. For example, sincere paternal concern for them may also have the form of a certain severity, useful for upbringing, and ostentatious lisp, on the contrary, hide absolute indifference to the fate of the child.
Step 7
Listen to the opinion of your children, because if a man you like, with all his outward well-being and decency, is sharply rejected by your children, then you should take a closer look at him. The thing is that adult people in love are not inclined to adequately perceive certain actions or gestures of a partner. But children are surprisingly attentive and notice some oddities in the behavior of adults, and even more so a lie.
