Raising a teenager poses many unresolved questions for parents. How quickly yesterday's baby became a ruffy teenager who does not listen to adults and does everything in spite of everything. But in such behavior there are hidden grievances and a test of the world for strength. And parents should try to preserve authority and respect in the eyes of the child.
Instructions
Step 1
Adhere to the "golden mean" rule in upbringing. You cannot bring up a child in a very authoritarian manner, with the inevitability of punishment, using physical methods. This is more likely not upbringing, but despotism. And at the same time, one cannot be too soft, ignore the child's misconduct, make him right in all situations, or dismiss his problems. The child must see your adequate reaction to your actions. Only in this way will he be able to learn behavior in society, to distinguish good from bad. And his parents will be fair judges for him, and not tyrants or indifferent caretakers.
Step 2
The child must learn the picture of the world from his parents. After all, children are our mirror. At a certain stage of growing up, they copy our behavior, considering our parents as role models. And if they see your disrespect for others, indifference towards their loved ones, then do not expect emotional sensitivity from your own children. Moreover, teens may protest your behavior with their antics. It seems to adults that children are testing their patience, but in fact they are trying to reach out to us.
Step 3
You must be aware of the child's life, share his hobbies and support all good endeavors. Don't make fun of what he thinks is important and dear. Often, children and parents do not even have common topics of conversation. And all because nothing really binds them together. If everyone in the family lives their own life, there is no sense of unity. And for many children it is also a sense of security, by which they mean love. Find common ground. Maybe the whole family goes camping in the summer, or campsites, collects, or goes out on weekends to help walk the dogs and the shelter. Find the things in common that will make your child see you as a friend.
Step 4
Build trust in your relationship. Try to let the child go to you with problems and worries, and not to the yard company. And for this it is necessary to create an atmosphere of tolerance and support. Your children should know that the family will always listen, help and accept you by anyone. If you meet any failures and problems of the child with a cry, then you will not expect trust and respect from him. A child's respect for his parents does not come just like that, especially during a difficult adolescence. This is no longer a defenseless baby who loves you selflessly for what you are. Before you is already an adult who needs good reasons to love and respect elders, not only for age and experience, but also for ordinary actions.
