The temptation to change loved ones is sometimes great enough. But here you will find many different difficulties, and the most important of them is the person's unwillingness to meet your expectations. Do not forget that each person is individual and has the right to live the way he wants. In most cases, he can only change if he wants to.
Instructions
Step 1
Analyze what exactly does not suit you in your loved ones, for example, in your second half? What do you want to change in him or her? Is what you are going to struggle with really a disadvantage? For example, your husband goes to bed too late, sits up with a book or in front of the TV. You are going to eradicate this "deficiency" without taking into account the fact that this behavior is a physiological feature of the body. Where it leads? Try to predict the outcome in advance. Most likely, you will simply ruin the relationship with your loved one, demanding from him behavior that is unnatural to his nature.
Step 2
If you do decide to change your loved ones, think about how you are going to act? Through numerous threats, persuasion, hysterics? Or by cunning, creating situations that help the "educated" think about the need for urgent changes in their character, lifestyle, etc. The first way is too difficult and unjustified - spending a lot of effort and nerves, you most likely will not be happy with the result, even if you do achieve it.
Step 3
Keep in mind that people do not like open pressure on themselves, so you are unlikely to be able to change a person for the better by constantly giving him orders and reading admonitions. The second way is more acceptable. But what methods should be chosen, what situations should be created so that they have the proper impact? It depends on each specific case.
Step 4
Remember that there are obvious vices that must be dealt with, for example, excessive alcohol addiction. But there are also such "disadvantages" that are inconvenient only for you, so think three times about whether you really need to fight them. By deciding to re-educate a person just so that you are more comfortable living or communicating with him, you can achieve the completely opposite result. The object of your upbringing may simply not agree with your point of view regarding their shortcomings and will actively defend their right to be themselves.
Step 5
If you love your loved ones, try to accept them as they are, without trying to correct something in their character. Of course, you can advise a person who is too hot-tempered to work on his emotions, who is too suspicious and indecisive - to become bolder and more self-confident, etc. But it is worth understanding that an adult must work on himself, must be aware of the need for changes in his own character, you can only accurately point out them.
Step 6
Pay attention to yourself - perhaps, before taking on the re-education of your loved ones, you should work on the shortcomings of your own character? After all, ideal people do not exist. Give your loved ones an example of how you can improve yourself and independently eradicate all problematic character traits.
