Parents often warn their children against any wrong, in their opinion, actions or actions. However, in such conversations, they often operate with inappropriate words. We bring to your attention a few "catch phrases" of parents, which are not useful for the child.
Instructions
Step 1
"Don't drink the water, or your throat will hurt."
The throat, in fact, does not ache from icy water, but from unspoken thoughts and emotions. Paradoxically, but this is a fact - if the child does not shut his mouth when he speaks, cries or screams, and also does not scold him for emotions, words and ways of expressing them, then the throat will not hurt.
Step 2
"Don't have fun with food."
Children generally do not know how to play or indulge at a young age. In this way, they learn about the world and the properties of objects. Food is no exception.
Step 3
"Don't look so close - you will break your eyes / plant your vision."
What do you mean, will you break it or plant it? You can break a thing, but you can put something on a sofa, for example. Vision can deteriorate, and it gets worse due to unpleasant associations with the future. For example, when parents say “if you grow up, you will find out”, or “if you grow up, you will understand how hard it is to earn money / live”. In addition, a person becomes short-sighted when they are forbidden to see details. Children love to look at, touch and recognize all things, including those on the street. This happens when adults tug at children, run over them and demand not to poke around here, here, there …
Step 4
"Stop raving / indulging / fooling around."
Why not? When else is a child to play the fool, if not in a happy childhood? If in a cloudless childhood one does not fool around properly, then in adult life a serious, successful and family man will experience a constant desire to be a clown, which will look very strange for others.
Step 5
"Aren `t you ashamed?!"
It is very bad and fraught with guilt and shame on the child. Adults are accustomed to throwing responsibility for themselves, for their condition, for their methods of raising a child on children, and the child ultimately lives with a load of guilt, gets sick, becomes embittered and unhappy.
Step 6
"Stop roaring!"
It's like saying, "Stop purifying your soul, leave your inner pain in yourself and live on." Unspoken pain will accumulate and make the child even harder and angrier.
Step 7
"If you fall, it will hurt."
If you constantly talk to the child about this, then it will be so. These words are not a warning for the child, because they are facts that work for the child, like programs for action. Instead of such phrases, it is necessary to help the child try himself where he has not yet tried himself, to give him a hand and provide support. Give your child confidence in their strengths and abilities.
