Sex with an ex is common. Many women, after parting, resume sexual relations with a once beloved man. There may be several motives for such sex. When you understand well why you want it, then you feel much more confident in the choice of further actions.
Instructions
Step 1
Probably the most common reason for having sex with an ex-boyfriend is love that hasn't cooled down. Perhaps you broke up on his initiative, but you yourself still love him. With sex in such a situation, a woman is trying to renew the relationship. Sex in this case is often followed by intense disappointment: sex has happened, but the relationship has not resumed. If you realize that you are trying to return a man through sexual intimacy, then it is better not to repeat such intimacy. Each time you yourself will suffer more and more. Look for other ways to renew your relationship.
Step 2
Trust and friendship. Another reason is the continued friendly relationship between you. If the breakup was not very emotional, then, most likely, you still have the baggage of trust in this man. You know him well; according to your inner feelings, he is “your own”, “dear”. At the same time, if you are friends, then it is much easier to resume sex than to meet a new man. At the same time, such sex for friendship can have two outcomes: the renewal of the relationship (if both continue to love), the disappointment of one of the partners (if for one it is just sex without obligations, and for the other it is love). Therefore, be honest with yourself: if you feel that your old love is flaring up, make sure of reciprocity or stop "sex without obligation" with this man.
Step 3
Good sex. You just know that your ex in bed is the best and you want to experience those emotions again. Especially this motive can work if after breaking up you can't build a new relationship in any way and, accordingly, you haven't had sex for a long time. Or if your new men in bed are not as good as they would like. At the same time, the former has an advantage over new partners, because he knows your characteristics: he knows your favorite positions, erogenous zones, etc. Whereas in any new relationship, even the sexiest man is just beginning to recognize you.
Step 4
Revenge. This reason for having sex with an ex is possible in a situation where feelings on the part of a man have not cooled down. In this case, you want to take revenge on him for some reason. He calls you with requests to renew your relationship, you agree. But after sex, leave as if nothing had happened. If you feel such a desire for revenge in yourself, think carefully: do you really want revenge through sex? It's hard to keep cool at such a moment. In this case, you can harm yourself much more than take revenge on him.
Step 5
Accident. Casual sex with an ex is also quite common. You just drank alcohol, got bored in an uninteresting company and dialed your ex's phone number yourself. Do not think too much and worry in such a situation. Just walk away. If you feel a reproach of conscience, then you can discuss the sex that happened with a man, dot the and. You should not leave the situation in limbo: you must clearly understand whether it was a one-time casual sex or this is the renewal of your relationship. Moreover, your view of the situation should correspond to the opinion of the man. Otherwise, conflicts and unnecessary experiences are inevitable.
