Breaking up is not easy. Until recently, you felt that there is love, tenderness, care in your life, and every day was filled with the feeling of a fairy tale. And today he said: “It's time for us to leave,” and you are not ready for such a turn. You have to puzzle over how to get the guy back.
Instructions
Step 1
Is it worth it?
The first question to ask yourself is: is it worth it? Why glue a broken cup, which will still show signs of cracks. Understand your motives: do you really want to return the relationship - or rather, build new ones, making every effort and taking into account mistakes, completely forgiving your partner and apologizing yourself. Or is it just a movement by inertia, the fear of losing the usual way of life. Or - even worse - a desire to take revenge (to return, then to abandon the offender). In this case, do not waste your energy on multiplying negativity in the world, it is better to sign up for a fight and go to a rock concert to throw out your aggression.
Step 2
Why is he like this?
Do you really have no idea about the reason for the breakup? And if you dig around? People don't make such serious decisions after an ordinary fight. Or too many fights have become commonplace. Think about where you did not yield, did not take into account his desires, deceived, were too rude. Only you need to analyze it with a cool head and immediately accept it as a fact, without reproaching yourself.
We will keep silent about the situation when a man really disappears without explanation. Make sure that everything of value in the house is in place, and forget about it. A person who does not know how to communicate with a woman is not worthy of your worries.
Step 3
Typical mistakes
To indulge a man in everything, including in the erotic sense. A former partner will willingly accept all sexual offers from you, but a full-fledged relationship cannot be built on this. You need to gain respect, not a reputation as a girl with whom everything is possible.
All the time, supposedly accidentally caught his eye, fill up with love letters and gifts as a sign of apology. Immediately after breaking up, you associate him with negative experiences. He needs to cool down and be alone with his feelings, and so do you.
Fall into despair, think only of him, live in the past. The period of falling in love, when we are ready to dissolve in a dear person, is fleeting. At a more mature stage of the relationship, you want to see a full-fledged personality next to you. How will a guy notice your personality, strength of character, intelligence, charm, when you yourself have forgotten all this for the sake of memories of him?
