Sometimes children are very slow. You are in a hurry, and your child freezes in thought, barely getting dressed, or rummaging through his things, trying to find something. You make comments, get annoyed, but the more heated the situation, the slower the child moves around the apartment.
There may be several reasons for a child's sluggishness:
1. This is a feature of the child's temperament.
2. Children up to 11–12 years old do not have a clear idea of the time, therefore they do not understand what it means to be late and to be on time.
3. This is how children respond to an authoritarian parenting style.
4. In this way, some children adapt to a situation that causes discomfort. For example, when, after parting with his parents, a child needs to go to an unloved teacher or teacher.
What should I do?
- Analyze what is happening and understand what is the reason for your child's slowness, then it will be easier for you to find a solution to the problem. Try not to rush or swear.
- Haste is especially undesirable in the morning. Get up early. Let the morning preparations pass calmly. The key to success is your good mood, then children will become more obedient. Tell us something funny.
- Cheer up your baby. It is known that children need parental love when they least deserve it.
- If you often look like the commander of a military unit, giving orders and demanding their immediate implementation, then think: what are you teaching your child at such moments? Unquestioning obedience? Do you think it will be useful for him in the future?
- You should not dispose and order the child. Allow him to face the consequences of his slowness. Will be late for classes at school - let him receive a comment from the teacher. If he doesn't catch the bus, he will be left without an interesting trip.
- When the child himself realizes that he is late, do not rush to help him. Sympathize: "Yes, it's a pity, of course, but I also have a lot to do."
- Don't be boring. Try to refrain from lecturing. Better set it up positively. Say: "I love you, until the evening." Wish you a good day.
If you notice positive changes in behavior, be sure to inform your child about it: “You got ready for school so quickly this morning! I am very glad "," Already doing your homework? Well done". This will inspire the child and strengthen the desire to act in the same spirit.
