Men cheat on their wives for various reasons: because of the desire to feel "young", variety, adrenaline. If this is not a fleeting relationship, but a long relationship with a mistress, it is difficult to hide them. The traitor does not always leave the family for the sake of another woman, and then the wife has to think what to do if the husband loves another, but does not leave.
As a rule, the traitor is in complete confidence that he is in control of the situation. He tries to hide his mistress from his wife, and to the lady on the side says that there are problems at home and now is not the best time for a divorce.
When the unfaithful husband does not want to go to his mistress, the woman herself can decide the fate of the family.
Try to hold on to a man
It is difficult to be with a spouse when he was able to fall in love with another, but sometimes feelings are higher than betrayal. In this case, efforts must be made to persuade the husband to stay with the family. There is no need to reveal the cards on the same evening, first prepare the ground.
Think about your relationship and try to understand the reasons for his cheating. It's just that a man will not commit adultery, which means that he does not like something or lacks something in the family. Reasons that you can influence: unkempt appearance, bad temper, problems in intimate life, poor housekeeping, etc.
As a rule, both spouses are to blame for treason. But it is in your power to work on your mistakes.
Try to do everything to keep him comfortable at home. Create an environment at home so that that woman fades into the background. After a week of good relationship, you can move on to talking about the future.
Discuss the current situation. Do not use blackmail, threats, do not go to shouting and continuous accusations. Let him know that you know about his mistress, and understand that she appeared due to problems in the family. Offer to work on relationships together and keep the family together. Discuss the situation so that at the end it is clear - either you or the mistress, but do not put an ultimatum directly.
Parting
But if you do not want to live with a traitor, you must part with him. This must be done without unnecessary scandals and showdowns. But only if you are sure of his betrayal and your decision.
Take a break so as not to be silly on your emotions. Consider the situation and make a final decision, because after he leaves, your life will change.
After calming down, you can think about how you will tell him about the breakup. Every action must be calculated. Most likely, the husband will deny his infidelity, will begin to accuse you, so it is better to have evidence or an ironclad position.
After the conversation, say that you do not want to live with a traitor. If the apartment is yours, you can pre-collect his things and put them near the door. But it will not be so easy to drive him out of the common apartment, although you can invite him to go and spend the night with his mistress.
