Even with maximum restraint, the pain of betrayal negatively affects not only mental, but also physical health. If, after all, you have irrefutable facts of betrayal on your hands, then use some tips to help you pull yourself together and not do stupid things.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to stay calm. A hasty decision, as a rule, is wrong, and you have to regret it later. Evaluate the situation with a cold mind, weigh every word that you say to your cheating husband.
Step 2
Don't blame yourself. Your self-esteem shouldn't drop. Often remember your merits, for which you can and should be loved. This will help protect yourself from depression, which is frequent in such cases.
Step 3
Pay back and speak out. First, with a sensitive person (relative, close friend, psychologist). Then, having calmed down a bit, move on to a conversation with your spouse. But avoid harsh accusations, no matter how painful it may be.
Step 4
Weigh everything carefully. Of course, it is up to you to be together or to break up. But do not forget to take into account important factors: your age, having children, financial situation, affection for your husband. Just do not sacrifice yourself - then self-destruction is inevitable.
Step 5
Avoid revenge. It will definitely not become easier, but it will add dirt in the shower. Even a simple flirtation with another can have twofold consequences: make your husband jealous and refresh his interest in you, or, conversely, push the spouse to an early separation. Avoid showdowns with your rival, spying on your soul mate, ugly scenes - this will completely alienate the man.
Step 6
Be sensible. Try not to involve other family members in the problem: children, parents, brothers, and so on. Let it only stay between you. And, of course, in no case should you sort things out in the presence of other people. Prudence and restraint should be your main allies during this difficult period.
Step 7
No reproaches. If you have forgiven your husband, you should not stir up the past and constantly reproach him for treason. This will not lead to good. Your main task now is to make him fall in love with you again.
