There is hardly a stronger threat to a relationship than cheating on the part of a loved one. Treason can be unsettling for a long time. Resentment, pain, misunderstanding - all this does not give pleasure. But if this misfortune has happened, then how to deal with it? And is it possible to forgive the betrayal of a loved one?
Instructions
Step 1
In a situation of adultery, those who have experienced betrayal most often turn to a psychologist for help. And, as a rule, women apply. Men tend to try to cope with the betrayal of the other half on their own, often with the help of available "improvised" means, "such as alcohol. Of course, this is always the wrong way to restore peace of mind.
Step 2
Cheating is always a crisis situation. It is often accompanied by intrapersonal conflict. What to do next in this situation? To forgive or not to forgive? Or maybe you need to avenge the abused relationship? These and similar questions often arise against the backdrop of raging emotions.
Step 3
Those who try to find appropriate answers for themselves are often unable to cope with this task on their own. The pain of betrayal narrows the ability to soberly assess the situation, to plan their further behavior in relation to the betrayed partner.
Step 4
The main question is: to forgive or not to forgive treason? How you answer this question for yourself often depends on the conditions in which your personality was formed during childhood. Remember those situations from childhood when you yourself had to experience feelings of guilt for pranks or more serious offenses. If your parents forgave you, it meant that you are accepted as you are, with all your weaknesses and shortcomings.
Step 5
But in a situation of betrayal, it is the deceived person who is faced with the need to forgive the guilt of another. But what about the indelible resentment, the fear of being alone, the lack of former warm relations in the family? Moreover, doubts often come into conflict about whether it is worth continuing to keep the family.
Step 6
Alas, there are no universal recipes on how to build a future life and relationships after infidelity. And a person who finds himself in such a difficult life situation will have to make responsible decisions on his own. In particular, you will have to take responsibility for these decisions yourself.
Step 7
The most general recommendations relate only to methods of response in the acute phase of the situation. First of all, you need to come to a more even state, remove unnecessary emotions. Try to figure out why the situation with treason was brought down to you from above. Could it have been provoked by something in your own behavior? Critically assess yourself and your behavior in the conflict.
Step 8
Find an opportunity to speak out. It is not so important who becomes the listener - a professional psychologist, mother or close friend. You need to say out loud how you feel about the situation of cheating. For the most part, such a reaction of emotions allows you to relieve the acuteness of feelings and remove the inevitable consequences of harmful stress.
Step 9
The main rule is - beware of making quick, hasty and emotional decisions immediately. Unfortunately, the consequences of not well-considered actions are not always easy to fix.
