Conflicts between people who love each other arise sometimes quite unexpectedly. They sometimes hurt each other painfully with words, deeds, actions. It's easy to offend, and it's harder to apologize and forgive. Sometimes it takes a very long time to reconcile. But being able to forgive is essential.
Instructions
Step 1
It is important to understand for yourself that negative emotions and experiences press with a heavy burden and destroy you from the inside. Forgiveness will help you get rid of this burden. Find the cause of the conflict, your resentment against your beloved. Maybe she's not as serious as you think. At the time of an argument, people often exaggerate the importance of the reason. And they are not always aware of, they can analyze and adequately assess what is happening.
Step 2
Speak the grievance out loud or write it down on a piece of paper. This will help you assess the situation, look at it with different eyes, and, perhaps, will make you laugh.
Step 3
Be sure to "let off steam", i.e. let yourself cool off after an argument. Don't make hasty decisions. Don't take offense at others. Better to change the environment: take a walk in the park, go to a visit, to the theater … or to the store.
Step 4
Find agreement with yourself. Think about why you are still offended? Or maybe it’s not a matter of offense at all? Is it just convenient for you not to forgive? Or do you like to be in the position of the offended, and forgiveness will deprive you of this status? Or, alternatively, do you like the feeling of superiority over your partner? Oh, how sometimes it is pleasant to torment a partner at the moment when he apologizes.
Step 5
You need to try very hard to understand your beloved. Not to justify him or yourself, but to understand.
Step 6
Do not be afraid to take a step towards the first one. Living in a state of resentment, worries is much worse than taking the first step. Remember the good things that connected you with each other. Present your man in a good light. You can try to write on a piece of paper the good and bad qualities of a loved one. Count the records. Maybe there are many more good ones and you are in vain offended?
Step 7
Never consider forgiveness a heroic act or an act of complacency. You are going to make peace with your loved one, not doing him a favor. Forgiveness is important to you first and foremost. You free yourself from the moral burden. When you forgive, you feel much better, happier than before. All that is needed is the willingness to give up the offense. Learn to forgive, not only your loved one, but also yourself.
