Psychologists are sure: it's easy to build a happy family if you firmly adhere to simple, but binding rules.
Discuss these rules in a family council and start following them. And rest assured: your experiment to create a happy family is doomed to success!
Family relationships are most important
Now many brides are looking for a successful groom: absorbed in work, career, making money. And you need to look for a man who will be absorbed by his woman! Work and career - will follow if the support of the beloved is behind the man's back. And work, and friends, and hobbies - all this should not be the main priority on the list of priorities for both the wife and the husband. The main thing is the harmony of relations, interest in each other and fullness with each other. If both spouses are aware of each other as the highest value, then their family will certainly be happy.
No one owes nothing to nobody
The family will be happy only if all the responsibilities that are distributed among its members, they take on voluntarily, and not "out of the blue." How to organize this?
First, distribute cases according to desire and inclinations.
Secondly, not to stand above the soul, demanding their fulfillment at a strictly defined moment and in a strictly specified way, but to provide freedom in this.
Third, it is important to praise and give thanks for everything that everyone does for the family. Only then will the wife cook in order to please the loved ones, and the husband will keep the house in order in order to earn the admiration of the household. No demands - just kind requests, no criticism - just praise!
For each other, spouses are primarily a man and a woman.
A harmonious relationship between a man and a woman is always based on physical attraction to each other and spiritual closeness. At different times of the relationship, these ratios are different: in the period of falling in love, physical attraction is more important, for mature spouses, spiritual intimacy prevails. The main thing is to remain attractive and desirable for each other. And this means: take care of yourself, your appearance; try to be an interesting interlocutor - expand the circle of your hobbies; find pleasure in pleasing your soul mate with pleasant deeds and unexpected surprises.
Everyone does what he wants
The family will be happy if no one forces them to compromise their interests and desires for the sake of other people's interests and desires. If the husband is going to football, and the wife has planned a trip to the theater on the same day, then why not disperse in different directions to do what the soul asks for? Only the understanding that all family members are free in their choice, that they have the right to do as they want, makes everyone happy. And if there is happiness in the family, then its members will not want to part with each other, which means that there will be more joint affairs, projects and entertainment than individual ones.
Destructive habits
The criticized person experiences stress and discomfort. If you love your loved ones, try to keep criticism to a minimum. Don't be nitpicky.
It is so intended by nature that a man in a pair is a leader, and a woman is his support and support. In those families where such role constellations are disrupted, unhealthy relationships develop that can ultimately lead to collapse. It is important for a wife to learn to be feminine and wise: to give her husband the role of a leader, protector and earner.
When a couple is going through a candy-bouquet period, each tries to please the other with his appearance, gifts and surprises. Over time, romance fades into the background, and the spouses slowly begin to look around in search of what was lost. Don't let this happen!
