How to build relationships with parents? How can parents realize the "adulthood" of a son or daughter? The formation of interfamily relations is a rather important component in the life of both newlyweds and those who gave them life.
Perhaps, after intimate relationships, the most controversial topic is the question of how to build relationships with parents. Indeed, the young got married and left the "parental nest." How to behave further with those who raised you, raised you, gave you education, and in general - gave you life?
There is no doubt that parents need to be treated with due respect. If you think about it, parental consent to marriage might not exist. And incredibly much depends on such consent. This is reason enough to be respectful of your parents.
Despite this, parents should not interfere with the life of the newlyweds. It is very difficult to realize that your child, now an ex, whom you raised, for whom you were literally everything, will go to live in another house tomorrow. But this task remains for the parent, he must cope with it, otherwise, later, it will only interfere with the newlyweds. As for the young themselves, they can be recommended to help their parents in every possible way.
But this help should not go beyond reasonable limits. Both parties must realize that the one life that was before marriage or marriage has now split into two independent lives. Each side may have their own plans, desires and possibilities, and when someone asks for help from someone, this side of the issue must be taken into account. Otherwise, such help can be regarded as selfishness on the part of the parent (“I raised you, I gave you life and I command you”). This position is fundamentally wrong and with almost 100% probability will lead to an interfamilial gap.
But the worst thing is not even this, but when the parents begin to advise how to live for the newlyweds. The thing is that a young family is being formed, a completely independent unit of society. This cell is formed with its own principles, way of life and way of life. All these things young people should form themselves, in no way should it be imposed from outside. Of course, the parent has the right to advise, but to accept or not to accept such advice is the responsibility entirely with the newlyweds.
As a result, let's say that the topic of relationships with parents is quite delicate. In the process of this kind of communication, one should be guided, rather, by intuition. Well, and surely those problematic issues that arise for each of the partners must be "worked out" behind closed doors.
