How to raise a child correctly? What is the best way to punish a child?
As a rule, parenting is a very complex and delicate process that requires attentiveness and sensitivity. Each parent for the child lays, so to speak, a "foundation" of moral values, rules of discipline, moral principles, etc. And, of course, in the course of such a difficult "construction" sometimes you have to scold and punish your child, which is something none of the adults really wants to do.
Parents punish children for poor discipline, for unfulfilled assignments, for tricks that could not be done, etc. And, of course, each parent punishes his child, far from being happy about it, but thinking how to make the child obey, observe discipline and understand everything the first time.
Psychologists say that the child does not need to be limited in many ways, which many parents do. The degree of permissibility must be present, the actions that can be done are clearly stipulated. Thus, the child will feel more mature, will begin to trust his parents and consult more with them. Communicate with a child on an equal footing, thereby not forgetting about authority. If the child is guilty of something, then he should be punished. If the disobedience is repeated - toughen the punishment.
In no case should the punishment carry either physical or psychological harm. If you doubt whether a child deserves punishment, it is best not to punish at all. In the case when the child has committed several disobediences, it is better to punish once, but strongly, and not in turn for each. It should also be taken into account that the child is a developing personality, therefore, in no case should it be humiliated, insulted, and also compared with other people.
It is better for the parent to once again conduct an educational conversation and reasoning about what happened. The child should talk to you, have contact even during a quarrel. This will help him open up and explain, perhaps the circumstance that happened is not accidental.
Be sure to reward and reward your child for good behavior. Next time he will not do unnecessary things. Of course, he will want, on the contrary, to hear a kind word or get some kind of prize.
Children must be treated, first of all, with understanding. Punishments for no particular reason will not help; on the contrary, they will harm your child. If you don’t know how to act in some situations, it’s better to turn to a psychologist, because it’s up to you to build the life of your child.
