There are no parents who would not face how their beloved child is trying to get what they want at any cost. Many dads and mothers do not notice the innate dexterity and skill, with the help of which little manipulators quickly and permanently set their nets.
Children's manipulation and its types
A child already at an early age is well versed in what he wants, and always openly begins to demand what he wants. And here a lot depends on the parents' reaction to the child's attempts to manipulate adults. In the event that children's needs are not satisfied with the help of the usual method of influence, the child begins to look for other effective levers to achieve the desired.
In most cases, the parents become a source of inhibitions for the child. Do not touch the sockets, try dirty objects on your tooth, pull the cabinet doors and press the TV buttons. The child does not like that his desire remains unsatisfied and the baby begins to cry. Baby crying is a powerful and effective leverage. Dads and mothers can not stand it and make concessions to the manipulator in order to stop the screams of the naughty child.
The kid may even get sick, realizing that strict dad and mom will immediately replace anger with mercy. There are many ways to influence parents through the occurrence of health problems, from simulating the symptoms of the disease to the appearance of a real disease.
A more sophisticated way to achieve what you want is when the child fondles his parents. Manipulation with affection softens and sometimes neutralizes dad and mom, who become kinder and more willing to make concessions.
Why do children manipulate adults
Often, parents by their behavior provoke and develop certain methods of child manipulation. When the child does not want to eat, the worried mother begins to shove the spoon, using distracting songs or rhymes designed to lull the child's vigilance. In case of illness of a beloved child, parents begin to overly patronize him, allowing what was previously prohibited.
The tactics of punishments and prohibitions work as long as the parents competently and intelligibly tell the child the reasons for their behavior. The child must understand why and why he is standing in the corner. If the parents do not give reasons for their upbringing methods, then the baby begins to develop manipulation tactics.
How to behave as parents in case of child manipulation
It is necessary to develop a certain tactics of behavior in relation to the child, which will be followed by all family members: mom and dad, grandmother and grandfather. The kid must learn that in the event of a whim, everyone will behave the same. This strategy will avoid manipulation by the child.
Recommendations for preventing child manipulation:
- in the event of a child's illness, parents should behave with restraint and calm;
- when the baby uses flattery, dad and mom must agree;
- against blackmail, the best way is to demonstrate indifference;
- clearly expressed dissatisfaction with the behavior of the beloved child and the subsequent departure from the room will calm the little brawler.
