The ability to communicate correctly with children makes life much easier for both the child and the adult, especially in situations where the child is overwhelmed by negative feelings and cannot cope with himself. The ability to talk with a child will help in such a situation to find the right words so as not to offend the child, and teach him responsibility.
Instructions
Step 1
Talk to your child in his language. The language of the senses. Children, like no other adult, are subject to emotional distress. If you see a child, especially a teenager, upset, listen to him first. Think about how the child is feeling, imagine yourself in his place. How would you feel in such a situation? Name this feeling to yourself and think about how his desires could be satisfied. Whether it's hurt, anger, or pain.
Tell your child what you are thinking. He will understand that you acknowledge his right to experience these feelings. At the same time, you should say not what he should feel, but what he is really experiencing.
Step 2
To understand a child, you need not ask him questions that he may not understand or which he does not want to answer, but address him in the form of statements. For example, instead of "What have you done again?" you need to say, "You obviously had a hard time today." This will again let the child know that you understand how he is feeling. There is no need to focus negative attention on the child with questions. Talk about what you are feeling or about to do, not what the child needs to do. Agree that the child will better accept "I'm worried about you, I need to know how you will get home", and not "Where do you go, how will you get home?"
Step 3
Drive stereotypes away. Your child should not be like other children. And you should not apply to them the methods that others apply to them. Follow the following algorithm:
1. Formulate your thought in one sentence.
2. Talk about your feelings and thoughts ("I'm worried").
3. Show what the child's behavior can lead to. You can even exaggerate a little.
4. Admit that there is nothing you can do, thereby making it clear what the child needs to do.
5. Show that you can help.
6. Give the impression that you are confident in your child's strengths, that he will be able to cope with the situation on his own.
