How do you know who broke the mug? If the mother swears, then the child, if the silence, then the mother broke.
There is an opinion that parents should always be kind, balanced, patient, caring and understanding. But this does not always work out in reality, periodically there are breakdowns when the parents run out of patience and they show irritation in relation to their child.
So I sometimes look at myself and wonder why sometimes I remain patient in relationships with children, and sometimes I break down and lose my composure. It was not clear to me why this was happening to me.
Of course, it is difficult to observe the whims, tears, cries and leprosy of children day after day, at some point we get tired of being a parent, we get tired of the responsibility we have for the child, of infringing on our desires and habits to please the wishes of the baby and as a result we responsibility for what is happening on children. So, for example, a child broke a vase, because he climbs where it is not necessary, grabs everything, stares around, and not because we put it where it should not, and ourselves did not follow the child. It's like in the joke "How to determine who broke the mug - if the mother swears, then the child, if the silence, then the mother broke."
Thus, when we break down and lose our composure, we unconsciously disclaim responsibility for what is happening here and now and blame the child for everything.
It is important to always remember: parents are caring educators who guide their child through life for many years, support and do not try to shift responsibility onto children.
