Frigidity is a condition in which a woman does not experience sexual arousal and is unable to experience an orgasm. According to statistics, 32% of married men blame their partner for sexual coldness, bringing the situation to a break. However, according to gynecologists and sexologists, only 3-4% of women are truly frigid. It is not difficult to distinguish true frigidity from false, it is enough to know some of the nuances.
As a rule, true frigidity is infrequent and is caused by abnormalities in the physiology of a woman: underdeveloped genitals, insufficient production of the female hormone - estrogen, etc. Such problems are eliminated by visiting a gynecologist and following the appropriate treatment recommendations.
A woman can understand whether she is frigid or not: just choose a convenient time, lie on her back in bed, relax, slightly bend her knees and, placing a finger in her vagina, think about sexual caresses. In a sexually healthy woman, after 25 seconds, the clitoris swells with excitement, and after 3-5 minutes the finger will be moistened with vaginal secretion - a transparent liquid that moisturizes the genitals for intercourse.
13% of Russian women have a low libido level due to the use of hormonal contraceptives: some contraceptives thicken mucus from the cervical canal, which makes it difficult to develop natural lubrication and leads to discomfort during intercourse. And since sex does not bring pleasant sensations, the desire gradually fades away.
If a woman experiences arousal in a dream, during masturbation or watching an erotic film, but remains cold during sexual contact with a partner, this is a false frigidity. Correctional work in this case should be aimed at the psychological aspects of the problem.
The reasons for false frigidity can be different: the partner's haste, a phrase that was once inadvertently said about a woman's sexual incompetence or her external data, an unsuccessful first sexual experience (maybe even with the use of violence), etc.
To reach the peak of pleasure, you need to want to walk together to this peak. The partner's selfishness should alert: do you need a man who thinks only about his own satisfaction? An erection is not so scary, so a man can be patient, waiting until you "start".
Do not be afraid to tell your man about your problem - together it will be easier for you to understand how to proceed. Analyze yourself in bed: what do you think about when a man touches you? If any of his actions are unpleasant to you, tactfully hint about it or show with your hands how to touch you so that you like it. Are body odors bothering you? Then offer to start your sexual journey with the bath, lathering each other with new shower gel.
The twilight, scented candles of ylang-ylang, pair dances (such as tango) help to tune in to sex. Do not think about how you look in this or that position, whether you have something extra hanging on your sides, etc. Imagine that your thoughts are a tangle of pleasant moments, direct this tangle to the groin area and focus on the sensations.
Do not wait to be caressed - caress yourself: bite your partner, squeeze the vaginal muscles (when the penis is inside), change roles, etc. Once you feel confident about sex, all problems will go away by themselves.
