You have been meeting for a long time (or recently, which is also not uncommon) with your chosen one and are waiting for a marriage proposal from day to day. How do you properly accept this offer, and what should you care about first of all?
Instructions
Step 1
Think carefully about the reasons why you are going to get married. This is not a calculation, but a healthy foresight. Try to assess the prospects for your future life together. If you want to accept the offer just because for some reason you feel sorry for the future chosen one, reluctantly, refuse him. Pity is not a reason for a strong marriage.
Step 2
Ask your loved one about the relationship in his family (or watch if the acquaintance has already taken place). If, on the basis of conversation or observation, you notice that your and his ideas about the family are very different, try to discuss with the chosen one the details of your hypothetical cohabitation. But this discussion should not resemble an order to immediately, here and now, make you an offer.
Step 3
Start a conversation from afar, ask, for example, about … what games he was fascinated with as a child. If the child grew up alone, entertained himself, then this may indicate that your beloved is used to being alone and even in the case of living together with his beloved woman, he will feel lonely. If he communicated on equal terms with his peers, this does not mean that he will perceive you as an equal. In this case, try to create a situation in which he will show (or not show) his friendly qualities. There are many methods, familiarize yourself with them using the special literature on psychology, but use them skillfully and then in no case admit that you arranged tests for your future husband.
Step 4
Chat (if possible) with his friends in a situation that is unusual for many women (for example, organize fishing or paintball competitions). So you can appreciate both the attitude of friends towards your lover, and his attitude towards you. Draw conclusions.
Step 5
Pay close attention to how and with what he makes a living. This is perhaps one of the main aspects of the existence of a family. Consider if you agree to leave your job (if he asks to). If your chosen one works from time to time, decide for yourself whether you agree to support him at a time when he will not work.
Step 6
Consider if he (or both of you) can support your future children. If your loved one does not yet have children in the plans, do not insist: over time, if you also want children, you can agree on everything. Or even better - he himself will rush you with the birth of a child.
Step 7
Introduce your friend to your parents. Indeed, according to tradition and etiquette, the groom must ask permission to marry from the bride's parents. If you are not a supporter of such a ceremonial ritual, ask your loved one how his father proposed to his mother. It is likely that your future spouse will decide to use the "knurled" option.
Step 8
If on all counts your chosen one meets your requirements, feel free to accept the marriage proposal. Or … do it yourself, if you are sure that it will not refuse.
