Most often, the initiator of the marriage is a woman, and a loving man has no choice but to agree to be ringed. But sometimes women’s wedding initiative is completely ignored. Of course, this is both painful and insulting. What if he doesn't want to get married?
He is not yet ready for a stamp to appear in his passport. First, you need to figure out why he does not want to become a legal husband.
Perhaps there are objective reasons for his unwillingness to marry. For example, a banal lack of money. Sometimes women are so eager to dress up in a white dress that they are ready to get into debt and credit history for this. Men have a more rational approach in this regard. They try to have at their disposal a certain amount of money for a wedding and honeymoon. If the reason lies precisely in money, start saving money together for a future wedding. Let this be your common concern.
It is not uncommon for men to be afraid of a wedding if they have already had the experience of an unsuccessful marriage. And here they can be understood, because some women, after the cherished wedding ceremony, relax and show their true identity. Your man is likely wary of repeating a similar scenario. Or maybe he just grew up in a family where, instead of love, enmity reigned between mom and dad.
That is why, before making an informed decision about marriage, it is important for a man and a woman to live with each other in order to understand whether they are suitable for each other in everyday life. As a rule, conflicts begin 3 months after the start of life together. If they can be repaid, the next crisis stage begins in a year. If the partners managed to maintain bright feelings for each other for a year and a half together, a man is usually ready to become a husband himself.
Marriage must be approached responsibly. Therefore, you should not blackmail a man ("Or a wedding, or I am leaving"), and also try to marry him to yourself on popular advice with the help of a child. Suddenly he doubts the need to get married, because he is not sure that he wants to live with you all his life, raise children together? Think about whether you want to raise a child alone or in a family where there is no mutual love?
Do not look back at your friends, do not envy that many of them are already married. On the surface, almost every family seems perfect. Remember that having a wedding is a simple matter, it is much more difficult to wake up every morning in a great mood because next to you is a really loved one with whom you always want to be together, both in trouble and in joy.
