Often after the wedding, situations arise when the husband's friends continue to seek the same intense communication with him as before the marriage. Getting rid of the "fake friends" and protecting the family hearth from their encroachments becomes task # 1.
Instructions
Step 1
Do not rush to sort things out with your husband and friends and "add fuel to the fire" with another quarrel. Of course, if your husband's friends persistently continue to break into your family life without warning, regardless of your plans and desires, it is difficult to resist. However, look at the situation from the other side and call on your whole mind, tact and cunning to help you turn the situation back on track.
Step 2
Make friends with your husband's friends. After all, if they are friends, then there is some significant reason. It should be pleasant to communicate with them and spend time with them. So make sure of this. Don't expect action from your loved one. Invite them on your own, for example, to dinner. Listen more and try to understand the motives of their communication.
Step 3
Get their attention from time to time. Make it clear that you can support any conversation. Tactfully touch on general topics that make them feel less than perfect. However, do not look down on them. You will achieve more if you act with a smile and respect. In such a situation, it is important to make it clear to his friends that you and your husband are now one whole, and they are welcome guests at a pre-planned evening. Tactful, well-mannered people will immediately understand everything and stop bothering you with their unexpected visits.
Step 4
If your husband has friends since childhood, humble yourself. Long-term friendship has already left a significant imprint on the character of your spouse, which undoubtedly affects your family relationships. Breaking this bond is very difficult. It is important to learn how to make compromise decisions here. For example, have a quiet conversation with your husband and tell him that in addition to friends, he also has a family. He must understand that close people also need his attention. Invite him to hang out with friends, for example, only on Fridays. So it will be possible, without fear, to plan various family events, including for the weekend.
Step 5
If unscheduled visits from friends continue, move on to more effective measures. Find out if your spouse likes this behavior. Together, outline such a line of behavior for both so that the husband does not lose real friends and at the same time does not spoil family relationships. Tactful refusals, setting reasonable limits on "evening parties", postponing joint entertainment for the weekend - all these measures will help you solve the problem and discourage obsessive friends from your husband.
