If you married a man who was previously married, this means that he has not only the experience of family life, but also an ex-wife, and possibly children from his first marriage. What to do if your family happiness is spoiled by the third extra - his ex-wife? She constantly calls him, makes appointments, asks for help and makes you jealous. What to do in such a situation?
Instructions
Step 1
Find out the reasons for the ex-wife's awakened interest in your (already yours, not hers!) Husband. The fact is that often women who have lost interest in their husbands and decided to divorce them sometimes begin to have feelings for them again after that, as they realized that their former faithful are interested in other women. And if the ex-wife sees that a gorgeous woman has taken her place, this can provoke a sense of ownership and attempts to return the old relationship. Another case is when a woman, at the expense of her abandoned husband, seeks to increase her self-esteem, and provokes him to start everything with her from the beginning, leaving a new wife, that is, you. This is a common desire to show off in front of fans or girlfriends, because a man who has not lost interest in his former beloved woman will drop everything and run to her at her first call.
Step 2
Soberly assess the feelings that your husband has for you. Surely, when you marry a particular man, you were sure that he loved with all his heart and would not leave you for the sake of his ex-wife. You met him for some time before marriage and managed to study his character and habits. You are happy to look after him and appreciate him for who he is. If you are sure that you love him and do not want to lose, and also feel mutual strong feelings in return, then you need to be patient and gradually "neutralize" your ex-wife.
Step 3
Combine your efforts with your husband: The first step is to speak frankly with your husband and explain to him why you are not comfortable with his relationship with your ex-wife. If a man values you, he will understand everything and will do everything possible to protect you from unnecessary worries. From this time on, you must become one and together "fight" with your ex-wife. For example, if she constantly asks for help from your husband, he can calmly explain to her that he is not able to run to her help at breakneck speed every time. Do not dismiss her requests, just do them together. Each time you will show your ex-wife that the feelings are so strong that you divide all your worries in half. Gradually, the requests of the former for help will come to naught. Ask your husband to take you with him to any appointments this woman makes for him. In personal communication, be friendly to her, let her know that you wish her personal happiness, from which, by the way, it will become easier for you to breathe.
Step 4
Do not limit your husband's communication with his children. As you know, there are no "former children". If your loved one spends a lot of time with children, and, accordingly, with their mother, do not blame him for this. You just need to arrange his leisure time with children so that he is outside the house of his ex-wife. For example, you can buy him and the children pool passes, regularly arrange excursions, picnics, cinema and theater trips for them, and much more. Of course, all organizational activities will fall on your shoulders, but in this way you can also establish warm relationships with your husband's children, who will see that they are not indifferent to you. Take care of your family happiness!
