In the days of our grandmothers, the girls waited for the guy to take the initiative and offer to meet. You can, of course, follow the traditions, but waiting is so boring! What if you invite the guy on a date yourself? Here are some tips that will come in handy depending on the situation.
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In any situation, you need to have fresh makeup, well-groomed hands, a neat hairstyle (of course, your hair must be clean!) And a stylish outfit. First of all, you should like yourself
If you see a guy you haven't met before (say, in a cafe, in a museum, or even at a bus stop), you need to first decide if he is worth asking him out on a date. Come up to him and have a short conversation with him about anything - about the dish he has chosen (in the cafe), about the artist whose paintings are hanging in front of you (in the museum), about the weather (at the bus stop). After 10-15 minutes of conversation, you will know if you want to go on a date with this guy. If an inner voice tells you that this is a worthy option, be frank and ask directly if he wants to go with you to another cafe, or to another exhibition, or just take a walk in the park. Whatever you hear back, keep a cheerful and casual look. Girls with despair in their eyes do not attract men. If a guy is pleased with your company, he will agree. But no, and there is no trial, and in general, look, there is another nice guy over there, maybe we should go up to him?
If you are carried away by a guy who attends yoga classes with you, for example, you have the advantage of demonstrating your strengths on a daily basis. Always wear beautiful bright clothes to class, make sure your hair and make-up are impeccable. During breaks, strike up a friendly conversation with him about your studies (or work - if you are colleagues). Smile at him, try to make him laugh, joint laughter is a great start to flirting. During the conversation, as if casually touch his hand. If he gets a hint, then the next time you meet, you will most likely exchange phone numbers. Well, if you can't wait, invite him for a glass of juice in the bar of your fitness club or in a cafe nearby. This way you will be able to determine whether it is really "your" object without rushing events.
If you like him for a long time and you would like more than just to be friends, just admit it to him. Ask him to sit down and tell him directly how you feel about him. This confession can be a little overwhelming for a guy, especially if he hasn't had a reason to notice your sympathy until now. If he feels the same way about you, you will inevitably make a date. If not (or if he looks a little shocked by this news), tell him that you shared your feelings with him because you trust him, and that you do not expect the same in return. Explain that your friendship is very important to you and that you want to keep it. Be sincere in saying this.
This method is good for a club or any other place where a lot of people gather. Swiftly walk past him and "accidentally" hit him with your shoulder. Then turn to him, smile broadly, and apologize. Most likely, he will smile back. When he does, smile again and step away. When communicating with friends, try to be in his field of vision. As you sip your drink, periodically catch his eye and smile at him. If he correctly perceived your signals, he will invite you to dance. Dancing with him, you can take another step towards convergence, because in order to chat on a noisy dance floor, you need to speak to your partner in your ear.
At the bar, ask the waiter what that young man is drinking, and send the same drink along with a note to his table. If it happens in a cafe, send him a present in the form of something sweet, for example a cake, accompanying the present with a napkin with your name and phone number. You can also invite him to join you.
Any guy will appreciate such a sign of attention, and if he didn't react in any way, he is probably just a bore. However, if you think he's just shy, go up to him and strike up a conversation.