When the child is small, the parents babysit him, tell fairy tales. Over time, the son or daughter grows up, and the mother and father are still perceived as a small child. There is a certain problem in communication, since mom and dad do not know how to relate to matured children.
Make peace with the fact that your child is living an independent life. It is especially difficult to mend a relationship with his girlfriend or boyfriend. Try to see only good in this person, for which your son or daughter chose him. You may feel that this is not a good choice, but it is better to keep it to yourself, since a damaged relationship will be more difficult to repair.
Keep in mind that relationships with older children should be based on caring and understanding for each other. You must respect the lifestyle and interests of the younger generation. But they also have a responsibility to take care of you. Both generations need to try to build relationships on an equal footing.
It is important for parents to know that they should not try to control all areas of the life of matured children, both in personal and domestic relationships. Even if it seems to you that your child is doing the wrong thing, then you should not put pressure on him and demand to change his plans and decisions. Life experience is acquired only over the years.
Provide support and timely help to your children. However, this desire should come from you, and not at the request of an adult child. If we talk about grandchildren, then grandparents should understand that the main upbringing falls on the shoulders of young parents.
Understand that your boy or girl has grown up, let them take care of their personal life. Free them from unnecessary custody. They no longer need hyper control. But there is no need to completely move away from them. Take the free time from the trusteeship for something more interesting.