Any child needs to be praised to build positive self-esteem. But praise can be different and not even always useful. Praising correctly is a real art. Having mastered it, you will certainly achieve success in the difficult task of raising your child.
Instructions
Step 1
Evaluate and praise the actions and intentions of the child, not himself, not his personality. The words “You are a wonderful daughter”, “What would I do without you?”, Of course, testify to unconditional love for the baby, but they have a very conditional relation to effective praise. Do not praise too often, because then the praise will lose its value for the child.
Step 2
Proper praise has two important parts. The words of adults express a positive assessment of a particular act of a crumb (or his intention). The second part is the child's independent conclusion about himself and his actions. For example, you point out the difficulty of a task that the baby has just completed, and the child says about himself "I am strong" (dexterous, smart, persistent, etc., depending on the situation).
Step 3
Especially note those actions that are most difficult for your child. Praise in such a way that the child can recognize the progress. This will inspire him with the idea that to overcome his own shortcomings and achieve the goal in his power.
Step 4
The praise should not sound like a comparison to another child, regardless of whose favor the comparison is made. Even in the case when the achievements or personal merits of the child are higher than those of their peers, there is a possibility that such praise-comparison will cause him to form a position of superiority and neglect in relation to them as less successful. It is better to compare the baby with himself - the way he was recently.
Step 5
Praise your son or daughter more often for what he does for others, not just for himself. If an action no longer makes it difficult for the child to perform, make sure that the results of his work can be used by others. For example, offer to help your little sister to lace up shoes for your son, who has learned to skillfully tie the laces on his shoes. And be sure to praise him for taking care of a loved one.
