Psychologists believe that people are divided into egoists who live only for themselves, and altruists who live for others at the expense of themselves. There are, of course, also those who try to combine self-love and respect for others, acting in accordance with the emerging situation.
In order to comfortably communicate with all people and find a common language with relatives, you need to be able to take into account not only your interests, but also the wishes of others. This is especially true of the relationship between husband and wife. However, if the husband is selfish and does only what he wants, it is quite difficult. In this case, the spouse has three options for reactions to such an attitude: leave, reconcile, or try to change the situation.
At the beginning of the relationship, both partners try to show their best sides, and falling in love does not allow us to soberly evaluate a loved one. But the shortcomings still appear over time. When a woman realizes that her husband is selfish and does only what he wants, she, of course, can decide to leave him and find her happiness elsewhere. However, this is an extreme option, and first you can try to save the family and fix the situation.
Try to change your spouse
Some women believe they can influence their spouse's selfishness. You can make him change his attitude, listen to the other side and do something for the common good. Typically, these attempts begin with gentle requests and suggestions. A woman wants to believe that if she asks her husband, for example, to put dirty things straight into the basket for dirty laundry, he will obey and accept such rules. Let not the first time, but over time, the husband will be able to fulfill certain requests of his wife.
Most often, it is impossible to change a person. He may want to change and even try to make attempts to please his spouse. But the practice of family relations shows that such changes are temporary, and habits and personal opinions are permanent.
A person will change if he is comfortable in a new state. You can talk to your husband, explain to him the positive and negative aspects of his behavior. Just don't swear when talking. Let the man see in you not a hot-tempered person, but a sedate woman, for the sake of which he will change.
Accept your husband as he is
The wisest way, of course, is to abandon attempts to remake a spouse, accept him as he is, and focus on his positive character traits. You need to try to see his point of view in what he does and why he does it this way. Such a philosophical attitude to life helps to preserve the nervous system and maintain family relationships.
When deciding what to do when the husband only acts the way only he wants, the wife needs to understand what she wants - to be right or to remain happy. After all, sometimes you only have to choose one of these options. Wisdom comes to a woman with life experience, and after a few years you will remember that you were too demanding of your spouse.
