To make a marriage happy, you need to put some effort into both spouses. Psychologists often compare family life with the construction of a building: the strength of the "structure" being erected depends on how smoothly and accurately each partner will "lay bricks".
A happy marriage requires some investment. What are these components? First of all, mutual respect between spouses. It should always be present, in all situations. If one of the partners does not respect the other, his rights and desires, then what kind of relationship can we talk about ?! This statement can be considered on the example of a specific situation.
For example, a husband comes home late from work and wants to rest a little, retiring in his office. The wife ignores the desire of her husband, treacherously invades his personal space and begins to tell the tired spouse about various events, problems, etc. She does not react to her husband's requests for a while to leave him alone, believing that her desire is above all. Such or similar situations inevitably lead to exacerbation of interpersonal relations and scandals. Emotions heat up, the spouses, in a verbal skirmish, begin to remind each other of past events, insults and reproaches can be used. Another variant of the outcome of events is also possible - irritated silence, innuendo, anger. It would seem how easy it is to avoid such exacerbations - it is enough just to learn to respect the feelings and desires of another person.
Husbands and wives should understand and accept one truth: the person who lives next to you is not your property. He may have his own interests, his own territory of inviolability in the house, etc. Of course, this does not mean that you need to build your relationship as free as possible, but you also don't need to stifle each other with endless nagging, reproaches and control.
The essence of marriage is that it unites two equal people who, as before the registration of relations in the registry office, should respect each other, and not strive to change the partner for themselves, make him someone who is convenient for you and your family life. Such a desire will surely provoke a backlash, and your relationship may be at risk.
If you are seriously thinking about how to save your marriage, try another effective tool for family well-being: say "thank you" to your husband or wife. Do not take all your partner's actions for granted, express your sincere gratitude and this will serve as an additional component in the grout for the "building" you are building.
In the case when the dissolution of the marriage, as it seems to you, is inevitable, carefully re-read the above tips again and try to apply them in practice, the result will not be long in coming! To find compatibility in marriage, it is not at all necessary to go to astrologers and fortune-tellers, just learn to respect each other's desires and needs.
