Trust is a fundamental component of a good relationship, be it friendship or love. With all that there are people who are wiser not to trust, in general, the ability to trust can be attributed to personality traits. And of course it is a dynamic structure. In a relationship with a loved one, there is a loss of trust, for various reasons. But in order, nevertheless, to restore relations, it is possible and necessary to work on restoring trust.
Instructions
Step 1
Give yourself time to deal with deception, pain, hatred, doubt, and anything that caused you to lose trust with your husband. Anxiety, pain is a natural reaction in response to a traumatic situation. They have their own stages of development in time, the human psyche goes through these stages on its own. And you cannot cancel them, you can only help yourself to survive them. Let your emotions go out with the help of sports, physical activity.
Step 2
Constantly reflect on your condition. Let go of the situation. You don't need to forget it or try to erase it from memory, just accept it and let it stay in your past.
Step 3
Forgive the offender - this is a kind of resource, cleansing after the experience. You are certainly not God to forgive sins. But consider forgiveness in an everyday, mundane meaning as leaving grievances, mistakes to the person who committed them (husband, partner). Otherwise, negative emotions will eat away at you from the inside, both literally and figuratively.
Step 4
Let the world and the rest of the people be who they are. Just acknowledge the uniqueness of everything and everyone, as well as possible imperfections. This will give you the strength that suspicion deprives you, and the desire to adjust everything for yourself.
Step 5
Shift your attention from the outside world (suspicion, distrust of your husband) to your inner world. Develop your best qualities, realize your interests and talents. Learn to have an optimistic view of the world.
Step 6
Learn to accept yourself, your integrity, your characteristics, which gives confidence and peace. Use a variety of methods - self-hypnosis, meditation, the "resource circle method" from NLP, the method of talking with subpersonalities from positive psychotherapy.
Step 7
Develop self-confidence. Your personality is the only true and reliable core; it must be inside. You should not choose another person as a support, even a husband. This will always cause hesitation in him and a feeling of self-doubt.
Step 8
Get to know the inner world of your husband, communicate more with your husband on various topics, strive for this, at least. By getting to know more deeply his views, worldview, you will know what to expect from him. And at the same time you will not be in illusions.
Step 9
Build on the best in your relationship; don't dwell on your husband's past mistakes. Look for strengths and positives in your spouse. In communication, address the best side of your husband. The stick is always with two ends and each quality has its own opposite.
