Some people have a big problem when they need to refuse someone. If you also belong to this category, you need to change the situation. Learn to say no if you can't or don't want to fulfill someone's request.
Instructions
Step 1
Think about what might be hiding behind your reliability. Perhaps the reason for your inability to say no is to be found in your lack of self-esteem. Then you need to work on yourself, increase confidence in yourself and your actions. Develop a system of principles and beliefs and stay true to your policies. Then you will not be tormented by the fact that you refused the request of another person, and think if you did the right thing.
Step 2
Maybe you want to be good for everyone around you, to please other people. This desire is normal, but difficult to achieve. You need to decide what is more important to you: to keep your personal interests and be yourself or be the center of everyone's admiration. Don't give too much weight to what people think or say about you. Focus on your own opinion and stop depending on the assessment of others.
Step 3
Remember that it is sometimes necessary to exercise healthy selfishness. Think more about your own needs and not about others' needs. If you do not respect your interests, no one will do it for you. You should not act to the detriment of yourself, agree to carry out some order when you already do not have the time or energy. Remember to love yourself and don't be afraid to defend yourself.
Step 4
If you find it difficult to immediately say "no" to a person, delay with the answer. Let us know what you think about the request. Try to postpone solving a problem that does not concern you. After a while, you will feel confident in your own position on this issue and will be able to resolutely refuse. Don't let yourself be caught off guard and get your consent to some business.
Step 5
You should not meekly load a bunch of other people's affairs on your shoulders. Don't let others take advantage of your kindness. If you are overloaded at work than your job responsibilities suggest, do not hesitate to ask for a raise. Maybe some of your friends are actively using your helpfulness. Ask this person sometime for a favor and see no reaction. Maybe in this way you will see the true face of someone from your good acquaintances.
Step 6
Prepare in advance several answers to requests that are inconvenient for you. If you can't refuse a person outright, come up with an excuse not to follow their instructions. It can be difficult to navigate the situation right away, so use one of your ready-made answers. With close and good friends, you can try to talk frankly. Explain to them what you are losing by agreeing to fulfill this or that request. Of course, your family members can react in different ways, so it's up to you whether to tell the truth or cheat beautifully.
