Talking about your feelings is not so easy. It happens that a person himself does not fully understand these feelings, and when the time comes to share them, he completely falls into a stupor. Confusion and shyness are also not the best helpers in this matter. But explaining how you feel is sometimes vital. How can you tell about your feelings so that you can be understood and heard?
Instructions
Step 1
Feelings are very different: bewilderment, sadness, melancholy, joy, happiness … If you do not express them, then the people around you will simply think that you do not feel anything. This happens quite often. Therefore, the first thing to start showing your feelings to others, admit to yourself that you are experiencing certain feelings. Make up your mind to voice them. Honest expression of your feelings will allow you to build truly harmonious and sincere relationships with others, this is the basis in relationships between people.
Step 2
Be careful not to judge others, but to speak in the first person. For example, if you are upset that your partner came home so late but did not tell you ahead of time, you are more likely to tell that person that they are insensitive and unfriendly towards you. Instead, you should say that you are upset with someone like that, that you expected him earlier and hoped to see you soon. Talk about how you feel, even if it looks awkward. The fact is that people, both adults and children, do not like very much when they are criticized or evaluated. Even when trying to communicate that you feel bad, you run the risk of not being heard if you clothe it with a reproach or a claim to which the other person will react with a protest.
Step 3
Talk about your feelings in a simple tone. It often happens that it is incredibly difficult to tell in simple words that you are sad or painful, fun or exciting. People in this case use a wrapper: irony, sarcasm, a joke. But the interlocutor will not understand that you are sincere, he will decide that this is irony or sarcasm. The simpler your tone and words, the more likely it is that the meaning they convey will reach the addressee.
Step 4
Choose your time. Sometimes people are in a hurry to "dump" on the head of the interlocutor everything that worries them, not noticing that he is tired or is concerned about something himself. The more important it is to you to be heard, the more carefully choose the moment to speak about your feelings. Of course, you should not go to the opposite extreme: considering that there is no right moment, you should not say anything.
Step 5
It happens that a person for so long suppressed in himself not only the desire to share his feelings, but also theirs, that it turns out that it is difficult to say about them even to himself. It is helpful to keep a journal to understand exactly how you are feeling. This is a practice that psychologists and psychotherapists often advise. Even Lev Tolstoy wrote that a diary is a way to talk with oneself, with one's true self. Don't miss this opportunity. Once you understand what your feelings are, you will find a way to express them in the best way.
