When a truly dear person leaves, the first impulse of many is to return the past. In order for a man to return his beloved, you need to do painstaking work on yourself.
How to determine the cause of the gap
To return a departed person means to end the relationship in its old form and start new ones. This is the only way to achieve success, because in the present position your relationship turned out to be untenable.
After the breakup, the first thing to do is analyze your situation, try to identify the cause of what happened. Remember the most frequent complaints that your beloved has made against you. Most likely, hints are hidden in them.
Well-being in the relationship between a man and a woman depends on the balance between mutual requests and returns. What did your girlfriend most often complain about? What qualities could you not accept in you?
There will not necessarily be one global reason, most likely there has been a gradual accumulation of dissatisfaction. An insignificant stimulus is enough for a person in a state of tension to break loose.
Since you were abandoned, it is you who should change your character. This is not an easy process that needs to be approached responsibly. Remember that you must sincerely want to change in yourself.
Reveal your weak points and work on them, if there is a desire, there will be success. Think a few times about whether to start doing this. If you don’t make a difference and get along with the girl, this relationship will again come to a standstill.
She agreed to a meeting. How to behave?
If you've had a productive time of introspection, arrange a meeting for you. You must demonstrate with all your appearance that you have become a truly different person. But do not trumpet about it in plain text, it will look feigned and unnatural.
The key to success is the girl's independent recognition of the changes that have occurred. In short, she must doubt the correctness of her decision. In a conversation with her, be sure to speak positively about your past relationships, recognize them as valuable to yourself.
There is one trick she can use to test her true feelings for you. When you managed to establish at least a friendly contact with her, do the following.
Confidentially inform her that you are planning a new relationship. But you are still in thought, because you have not yet been able to recover from the breakup. Such a move can push the girl to take action if her feelings are still strong.
Keep in mind that not all girls are motivated by a competitive situation. Do not use this trick if she has masochistic tendencies. She'll just step aside.
