Women are emotional beings. This is especially noticeable at the turning points of life, one of which is divorce. Few men manage to avoid scenes with tantrums during this period.
The reasons why couples break up can be very different. However, hardly anyone wants the other half to start scandals, tantrums and other "show events". How can a scandal be avoided?
Gentleman's care
First of all, try talking to your wife. It is better to announce such a conversation in advance. Book a table at an expensive restaurant, invite your spouse to dinner. It will be pleasant to her regardless of the topic of conversation, since such a gesture indicates undeniable respect.
Calmly and deliberately tell about the reasons for leaving, about the impossibility to continue further life together. Talk not about how good it will be for you without your wife, but on the contrary - how much your absence from her life will make her life easier.
Most likely, by this time your relationship has already cooled down enough, and divorce can really benefit not only you. If your significant other is jealous and you are leaving for another woman, try to get around this topic in conversation. Ideally, if the wife never finds out about the true reasons for the breakup.
However, there are situations when such a conversation is meaningless and even harmful. And what should be done in this case?
We leave in a guerrilla way
However, maybe not quite. At least before leaving, which you should certainly plan ahead of time, you will need to leave an explanatory letter detailing and detailing all the reasons for your disappearance. Include a bank card with a PIN code and a monthly credit limit in this letter - it is quite possible that this solution will have a tremendous pacifying effect on the abandoned spouse.
Such a card will be good in any case - whether you leave in secret or after a heart-to-heart conversation, especially if your family has a child. You must be fully aware that the duties of a father towards children must be respected regardless of the place of residence and relationship with his mother.
You should wait for a while and not rush to file a divorce. Divorce proceedings should be started no earlier than a month after leaving. You should not deal with this matter personally - it is better to entrust the divorce to a good lawyer. In this case, you can avoid unwanted meetings with your ex-wife, which means possible scandals.
