When children are young, they are eager to help their parents around the house, but they often refuse such help. A child at this age does everything awkwardly, so it is much easier for adults to do the job themselves. And then they start to wonder when a grown-up son or daughter does not want to do household chores.
Instructions
Step 1
It is necessary to teach a child to do housework from early childhood. As soon as a three-year-old child picks up a broom and a scoop and begins to sweep the garbage himself, this is the first sign that the child is ready to help his parents. It is necessary to patiently teach him this help on the most elementary matters. Children at this age really want to be useful, want to be praised, sincerely dream of doing something pleasant for their parents. And even if they still get it awkward, they can break a plate or make even more mess, but such help cannot be rejected, you cannot send a child to play in the nursery and abandon his business.
Step 2
Learn to thank your child for any useful activity. There is no greater reward for children than to see the surprised eyes of their mother, her joyful smile. Therefore, children aged 4-5 years old like to arrange pleasant surprises for their parents. For example, they say that they have scattered things, mom comes to the room thinking about cleaning - and there is cleanliness. This is a big and pleasant surprise for her. Even for the smallest help, you need to thank the child as if he did a great job. It is this gratitude and joy of the parents that gives the child the understanding that household chores are beneficial, that he helps the parents and does the real thing.
Step 3
Set a good example. Children learn from the behavior of their parents - there are no other teachers in their environment yet. Therefore, if the parents themselves are very conscientious about cleaning, doing it regularly, distributing responsibilities and helping each other, then the children will join the common work. If parents do not forbid them to do this at a very early age, they do not say that it is too early for the child to do housework, then when they grow up, children will not even have questions about why he needs to do something in the house. All responsibilities will be perceived as something natural and familiar.
Step 4
Assign only useful tasks. If a child in a family is taught to work only so that he does not mess around, there will be little sense from this. When a child knows that the housekeeper puts things in order in all the rooms and only in his own he has to do everything himself - the child will perceive such work as injustice, and therefore will do it without much enthusiasm. Only in a family in which parents perceive work and responsibilities around the house as something useful and necessary, and besides, not so difficult, children will think and treat housework in the same way.
Step 5
Distribute responsibilities honestly, do not forget about age. Young children still find it difficult to do many types of household chores, such as washing dishes or cutting bread. But they will gladly lay out the cutlery on the table, can arrange the plates, sweep, and put the toys in their places. So you need to entrust feasible tasks and not do them for the child, even if something does not work out for him. Moreover, you cannot scold a child or accuse him of not being able to do anything normally. One careless word can discourage a child from helping their parents.
Step 6
Give the children clear, specific directions. You can't just tell your kid to clean up the room. Maybe, in his opinion, there is already order. And the school uniform hangs in place, even if this place is a chair, and the toys are arranged in order, for nothing on the floor. You need to tell the child what exactly is wrong and how to fix it.
Step 7
Even such a serious matter as cleaning can be turned into a game and unpleasant responsibilities can be brightened up. Let the children compete with each other or complete some of your tasks in the form of a quest to find treasures or save a toy from captivity. You can come up with many variations of such games, and this will bring a lot of pleasure to both parents and children. But what you definitely cannot do is turn household chores into punishment or apply them in such a way. Then the child will definitely not be able to perceive them as something familiar and necessary.
