The parents of a naughty child must be very patient people. You need to gather all your will into a fist so as not to succumb to the temptation to teach him a lesson with a belt. However, the strap is a very ineffective measure. You must first find out the cause and then eliminate it.
Instructions
Step 1
Scientists' long-term observations of disobedient children have revealed 4 main reasons for disobedience.
Step 2
Desire to pay attention. Not receiving the attention that is required for his harmonious development, the child finds different ways to attract attention to himself: he can become whiny, he will show his fears, if only his mother sat next to him, some even get sick. But a small proportion of children use disobedience to draw attention to themselves. He would rather receive negative attention than not receive it at all.
Step 3
Desire to be independent. If the parents turn to the child only with comments, instructions or concerns, the child simply rebelles against overprotection. He becomes stubborn like a donkey, does everything in spite of. He needs to defend his right to make mistakes!
Step 4
Desire for revenge. Resentment towards parents can be for many, rather serious reasons. This can be a divorce of parents, the appearance of a new dad, the appearance of a small child that takes all the attention of the mother. Single small occasions, often related to unfair punishments or words. Motto: "You did me badly, and I did you!"
Step 5
Lack of desire. When a lot of criticism is poured into the address of a child, he closes down, loses self-respect, self-confidence. As a result, the thought ripens in his head: "Why should I try if nothing works." Outwardly, disobedience is manifested by the words "I don't care", "well, punish", "well, I'll be bad."
Step 6
If you know a little about people, you will understand why the child became stubborn. And then it all depends on your reaction. Top tip: do it differently than you did before. If the child sees that you are irritated or depressed after his actions, then he has achieved his goal, and next time he will do so again and again. Before, you acted from a position of strength. Now approach from the position of help.
Step 7
If the child does not have enough attention, come up with joint games, activities, walk with the child more often. Only at this moment concentrate on the child completely. Better 5 minutes a day, when you are completely absorbed in it, than 2 hours of distracted attention, in parallel with washing and TV. If he wants to assert himself, on the contrary, reduce your participation in his affairs. Let him accumulate his experience. To cope with yourself, try to understand: for all his inhuman methods, the child only begs you to give him the opportunity to be himself. In case of grievances and claims on both sides, you need to reset their counter to zero, believe in the child's capabilities, and he will believe too. Organize for him a range of tasks that he can definitely complete. At the first successes, the child will be elated.
