To be able to endure all teenage performances, you must be ready for them. As the saying goes: "One is not a warrior in the field." Therefore, this article will help you, dear parents.
How to communicate with teens
Of course, it is very difficult to communicate with teenagers. But to refuse and just try to communicate less, fearing insolence and mistrust, is much worse. Conversations are one of the ways in which the process of education and upbringing can proceed effectively.
First, be aware that you don't talk to your child about his or her appearance: the fact that he or she dyed their hair many times, ripped jeans and other such things that teenagers take extremely seriously. This is their style, a means to show themselves, and this cannot be changed. Talk about other, more important and interesting topics.
You can cheat to start a conversation. Start a conversation casually, such as when you are driving, eating, or cleaning the house. This will avoid the usual vigilance. To maintain the child's confidence, do not scold him during the conversation. Build a conversation according to the scheme: "how would you go down in this situation …?" Give an example from your own experience to liberate your child.
Be persistent in situations that you consider to be very serious, which involve topics such as the health and safety of your child. Do not try to prove something to a teenager if you know that he is already angry or tired. Give him time to heal. Don't yell at your child if they annoy you. The child will respect you only if he sees that you respect him.
What else do parents need to know?
What matters is the size of the applied forces that parents spend on upbringing. The moments when the child is the only meaning of life, or vice versa, when attention is paid to him only in the most urgent cases, I will make the child an independent person, able to make his own decisions.
It is important for parents responsible for the upbringing of adolescents to be judicious and able to foresee all possible scenarios for the development of the situation.
Parents need to know the specifics of adolescence and what their child needs.
The upbringing process should be tailored to the personality of the teenager. Parents will have to adapt to their child's ever-changing nature.
From the first time it seems that all the distinctive features of adolescence contribute to the separation of the child from the family, but this is not so. There is a great need for adolescents to have their next of kin in constant contact with them. The attitude of the parents is so important. If harmony and love reign in the family, then your child will be much calmer in the family environment.
