After the parents divorce, children often stay with their mother. The greatest difficulty in the subsequent upbringing of a child is played by the fact that he remains practically without the attention of one parent. Especially boys have a hard time. There is no father's example nearby, his participation in children's boy problems. In this case, the role of mother and father will have to be taken on by a woman without a husband. But to raise a boy as a worthy man is quite within the power of a single mother.
Instructions
Step 1
After a divorce, do not drastically change your attitude towards the child. Let him know that nothing has changed in your relationship: mom, as before, moderately strict, but still loving her son.
Step 2
Ask the boy's own father to pay as much attention to his son as possible. Agree with him, for example, that you will raise your son on weekdays, and from Friday to Sunday the boy will live with his father.
Step 3
If it is not possible to ask your own father to help you raise your son and there is no grandfather nearby who could fulfill this role, visit the sports centers in your city, talk to his male coaches. Explain the situation to them that you would like to raise a real man from a son, and you need male help in this. You will definitely find among the trainers someone who will take your son to the section and help correct his character.
Step 4
Mom should be with her son, whom she brings up alone, strict, affectionate in moderation, but all this without fanaticism. After a divorce from her ex-husband, she needs to pay twice as much attention to the boy, to be interested in his life and interests. Talk to your son as much as possible, establish a relationship of trust between you. You should know from the child's mouth what he does in his free time, while you are at work, with whom he communicates, with whom he is friends, what his desires are.
Step 5
Do not be afraid to be near your son, feminine, weak, tender, afraid for tomorrow. The boy will quickly grow up next to a "weak" woman, will become her support and protection.
Step 6
According to child psychologists, the most difficult period in a boy's life begins at the age of ten. This is the time when he feels mature, independent. At the same time, the boy has a lot of male questions, but he cannot ask his mother. At this age, a boy needs a male mentor next to him, whom he could trust: stepfather, grandfather, teacher at school, coach in the sports section.
