In every young family, sooner or later, a conversation about a child comes up. Usually the initiator of the conversation is a woman, and the man agrees or opposes. In this discussion, as in any other, timeliness and caution are important.
Instructions
Step 1
Consider whether this conversation is worth having at all. In an unregistered marriage, it is better not to discuss this and not stop using protection, the legislation in this regard does not protect a woman and her child. And talking about a child in an unregistered union will be viewed by many men as a trap. Therefore, it is better to first bring the matter to a legal marriage, and then plan to give birth. If the marriage is registered, then the question is also - is it worth asking. After all, if they refuse, then pregnancy will be a crime of the will of the husband. But if you didn’t ask, it’s quite a coincidence.
Step 2
You need to choose the right time for such a conversation. It is good to start him when the financial situation of a young family has improved due to the fact that the husband received a raise or a raise in salary. If a young wife got a promotion, then it is better to postpone the conversation a little, otherwise the risk of a negative decision is very high. Of course, if the pregnancy really happened by accident, the child must be given birth, accepted and loved.
But if you can plan a child, then you need to approach the issue wisely. It is better not to express the desire to have a child when the husband has problems at work, so as not to spoil the relationship. You also need to choose the immediate moment to start the conversation, it is best to discuss this on a weekend, when the husband is resting after a delicious dinner.
Step 3
Calm down your husband's concerns. There are several of them. The first is that the wife and child “sit on the neck” for a long time. Reassure your husband that you will go to work as soon as possible, or that you will work from home. The second is that your figure will deteriorate, so promise him to buy a gym membership soon after giving birth. Get yourself a pregnancy fitness disc. It should be hidden and shown to your husband during a conversation, as an argument that you will begin to follow the figure before it changes.
Step 4
You need to choose the arguments that are meaningful specifically for your man. Someone wants to fix a car with their son, someone wants to go hiking with their child and fly flying kites. But most want to hear that a woman wants to see in the house a little continuation of her husband, a part of him. It is with this consideration that you need to start a conversation. Many still want their small army (where dad is the commander-in-chief) to increase, so we can say that you want a complete family with the head of the family - the father.
